DEAR JOHN: Do not like gay advances
Fri, March 07, 2014 - 1:27 AM
DEAR JOHN, I am a young single man still in my 20s. I have just qualified as a professional. I hope to marry my beautiful fiancée within the next three years when she finishes her studies.
John, my problem is with one of the seniors in my office. He has taken a personal interest in me. Recently I celebrated a birthday, I received a birthday card signed by the entire staff and a magnificent watch was placed on the card by my senior colleague as a gift to me.
Not too long ago he nominated me to accompany him on an overseas trip. On the flight back he was constantly rubbing my knee or touching my hands. He finally asked me if I am gay. He said he has female relationships but he really prefers men.
John, the man is competent and highly qualified and it is professionally beneficial to be associated with him but I do not like his personal attention and what he calls his “special” attraction to me. This is my first job and I am scared of losing the opportunity of an excellent internship if I quit.
John, this is a sensitive issue. Please help me. How should I handle this situation?
– YOUNG HOMOPHOBIC PROFESSIONAL
There is no need to be scared. Be a man. If you lose your job you lose it but stand up for Christian principles, morality and healthy living. Two men making love; that does not make sense. Do the following:
(1) Invite your senior colleague to lunch. Sit with him and tell him your concerns. Remember he may be hoping for just this opportunity, so handle it with tact and fearlessness.
(2) Take the watch he gave you as a birthday present neatly wrapped in gift paper and give it back to him. Do not be rude. Tell him that after very careful consideration and reflection you would prefer not to establish such a relationship.
(3) Stress that as a senior professional in your industry he is considered to be one of the best. Tell him how much you admire him and that you are excited to be working with him. Praise his professionalism and competence and emphasise how blessed you are to be associated with him.
(4) Tell him of your fiancée, your plans to marry soon and the family you hope to raise. Reassure him that you admire the work ethic of gay, straight and bisexuals but as a young man you consider homosexuality to be a sin.
(5) Assure him that you cannot support the misguided practice of the countries which by legalising homosexuality and lesbianism have given the world the impression that these activities are now socially acceptable therefore they are right and no longer sinful. They may be legally and socially acceptable but they are still morally against the principles laid down by our Creator. Whatever happens, be a man.
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