Dear Christine,
THANKS for the advice you give your readers. I’ll like your advice on a matter. I am 25 years old and work with a guy who is about my age. He’s very good looking, friendly and helpful.
However, I am gay and I admire this guy a great deal. He is always well dressed, well behaved and has a good, positive attitude.
He does not know that I am gay, but I was hoping to explain this to him. However, I believe he will get angry with me and I will lose his friendship. I see how he enjoys talking to girls.
As things are, we are close and to tell him might cause a breakup. This would upset me very much.
Should I keep our friendship as it stands or should I tell him how much I love him? Thank you in advance for your reply.
– P
Dear P,
My advice to you would be to desist from ruining a good friendship. If this guy had any feelings for you, other than just being your friend, you would have detected this already. That he has not indicated anything of the sort tells me that he sees you strictly as a male friend.
It is also possible that he knows about your sexual preference but does not mind, as long as you are not expecting him to join in. Also, from what you’ve written, he seems to have a keen interest in the opposite sex.
If you value his friendship, keep things the way they are.
CHRISTINE
