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Confused by old love’s return

Confused by old love’s return

Mon, September 17, 2012 - 12:01 AM

Dear Christine,

Five years ago I lost a man I dated when he went off with another woman. At the time I took the split really hard. I literally begged him to come back but he never gave me the time of day.

After about three years had passed, I made friends with another man. Everything was going okay between us until the old boyfriend came back into the picture.

He began phoning me, passing by my home and turning up at my workplace to take me to lunch. Of course, I refused. He says he is sorry; he realizes his mistake and wants a second chance.

Christine, I am being very honest when I tell you that I love this man. I never really stopped loving him. In fact, things between us before we broke up were much better than with my current boyfriend.

On the other hand, my current boyfriend says he is willing to marry. Since boyfriend No.1 is back in the picture, I am really unsure about marriage. What must I do?

– K.B.

 Dear K.B.,

I think you need to take a time out.

 Sit back and look at both situations before you make a final decision. If you are not sure that you want to marry your current boyfriend, don’t do it. You’ll be miserable and unhappy, and perhaps break his heart in the long run.

However, your ex – who has hurt you in the past – now needs your forgiveness. I honestly cannot tell you which of these guys you should go with. I believe if you wait and take that time out, the answer will come.


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Posted by D. Stoute 2 years, 1 month ago
I would say that ship has sailed. Let it go. What's to say he won't suddenly up and leave you again, for whatever reason? We don't have to settle for a lover's poor treatment. We can't be so in love with them that we are willing to lose dignity and self respect. You said he wouldn't give you the time of day after you BEGGED him to come back. That was your mistake - begging. Hopefully you will go on with your life without believing that you have to beg someone to stay with you.

As for the other man, don't waste his time. If the sparks aren't flying, be kind, dignified, and let the man go. Don't do it to him the way lover boy did it to you. We should be in relationships only because they are mutually satisfying.

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Posted by Cheese On 2 years, 1 month ago
I should have stopped reading after the 1st paragraph. He ran off with another woman and now that Fling is over! He suddenly woke up and wants you?

Girl I would ditch them both and get my emotions and thoughts together. But it's your Life!

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Posted by Pan Wallie 2 years, 1 month ago
Your old boyfriend did not give you a second thought when somebody else out there caught his eye, right? He ignored your pleas, right? Would he be back if life was still rosy? Now it's your turn to think with your head and not your heart. Take your time in doing so.

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