Dear Christine,
I am 25 years old, working for a good salary and still living at home even though I can afford an apartment for myself. I love my parents but I am having a difficult time with my mother, in particular over my present boyfriend.
As a matter of fact, because of her constant nagging and making things uncomfortable for my male friends I have made over the years, they all drifted, causing nothing to come of the friendships even though at times I felt love was pretty close.
Now she is against my present boyfriend who is eight years older than I am. She feels he is too old for me. I have argued against this and now she is saying he is not good enough for me.
She has arrived at this because he was not educated at what she refers to as a good school.
It is true that he does not hold an office job but he is doing fine with his own small business. He is a very sensitive man and has told me if I cannot make up my mind about him, we could as well go separate ways as he does not want to break up my family.
We love each other very much and want to stay together.
What are your feelings on this matter? We would love to get married but he does not think we should if my family would not accept him.
– P.C.
Dear P.C.,
You are old enough to make your own choices and in this case I think you’ll have to take a stand against your mother.
You are an adult and an independent one at that. You must lead your own life, even if it means upsetting your mother.
I believe that if you take a stand she will come around to realising that you are old and wise enough to choose your own husband.
I suspect your mother is unwilling to part with you and that is why she is finding fault with your male friends. I do not think that a man of 33 is too old for a woman of 25.
If you two really care about each other, I suggest you let your mother know and also let her know you’d like to get married with her blessings.
If she holds back on this, I don’t see any reason why you should not get married to this man you care for.
I am sure she will eventually come around when she sees how happy you two are.
– CHRISTINE
