that is sad but true of so many women, not just Bajan women. i have learned that most of the women we call friends are “frienemies”... and will turn on you because of jealousy or just meanness. i hope that you will meet some better friends because all of us are not like that.

This cancer that you speak of does not only befall Bajan women, as you are stereotyping, it befalls women in general. I am sad that you had this experience, but it does not matter where you live, you will always have those around you that will not have your best interest at heart; those that you would think are your friends aren’t. It is the nature of an insecure woman, not just a Bajan woman, to be concerned for the sanctity of her relationship if there have been wrong doings in the past. They are forced to make speculations and assumptions and accusations about you so that their own secrets don’t come out into the open. Your friend did you a favor by informing you about these women, and I too think that you need to put these women behind you and move on with your life. Not just because they are Bajan women, but insecure women.

I find the above to have been mostly true, but will still have to comment that not all are like that. Many of them are also like that even if you don’t mix or they don’t know your business. If it seems that you have a little more, they shun you too. Imagine asking a male neighbour to do a favour and he says he has to stay within sight of his wife? Bajan women are insecure, that’s the real problem brought on by unfaithful men. Maybe I should have been that way as mine brought the female to my face, admitted he felt sorry for her situation.

yuo might be right in your article only last night my wife told me about two bajan woman told her about a friend of hers,watch your friend she might try to take your husband,we are all bajans,we live in the usa i visit barbados one time a year my wife two/ three times a year for buisness and that is the only thing they can think of only because that friend takes my wife places how rude

Yup they are too malicious and will talk out all your business. Thats why I married a foreigner she is my queen. We have been happily married for 7 years with two children.

Don’t fool yourself though a few are disgusted by the behaviour of their fellow country women.

Did someone gossip to U ? We Bajan Ladies get hurt by alot of women that aren’t Bajans, U know why because we trust them and bring them into our homes next thing U know they steal your man and more. They come with some sorry stories. The ones you meet at church is the worst, they meet your man at his work place or set out to come incontact with him any where and beg for money, at the same time telling him lies on you.The same time asking him not to tell their wife or woman. So U see why we Bajan Lidies are like that. You dont ‘ve to live here go home!!!!!!!!

This maybe true of other women universally as the numbers of eligible men decrease.

Having said that, our bajan women are still the most beautiful and caring. For most men living in North American and Canada in particular, this is acknowledged.

When I am home, I select a spot on Broad Street just to look at all the well attired and beautiful women passing by. I give them compliments which they so richly deserve.

One Love

This is sad, at the time when you needed your family and friends the most. There is a saying ” Keep your enemies close and your friends closer. You already know your enemies are going to say terrible things about you but never thinking your friends would do the same. Friends like these you don’t need enemeies. Remember people talk about others all the time and I am sure you and I have done the same. It is not just a bajan thing it is something that happens all over the world. The best friend you can have is Jesus. You have to put these people behind you and seek friendship else where. Everyone is not the same as these ladies are. I am sure there is a friend out there you will be able to trust. I wish you all the luck.

I know first hand how destructive and shameless some ,(and i say some )bajan women are . I don’t know if it’s a lack of selfconfidence , jealousy, or down right being maliscious . But they can,t be depended upon.And if you ever have a secret, don,t ever make the mistake in entrusting a bajan woman. She,ll tell all her friends"Even though
i’m not suppose to tell anyone,here is the scoop, remember you didn’t get it from me.”

Forget about BARBADOS, its a sad place to be, The Women of Bim will never change, have a look at them in carnival, vulgar/slack/ no respect for the children and their elders, but Barbados is not the only Island in the caribean, COME TO GRENADA you are welcome , and i am sure you will enjoy the beauty and culture of a great nation.

I agree with the other bloggers. This is true all types of women but also not true of ALL Bajan women. She should not generalize like that to make her point. There will always be those types of people, not just women, because men are equally guilty of this.

I am drawing from Gabby and saying in jest ‘that is we culture.’ I agree with the bloggers that it is common to other cultures, so there is no need to stereotype.
While it’s commendable that that man was helful, don’t be fooled, alot of men have mouths that open like umbrellas too. My thing is: “they talked about Jesus, so who am I that they won’t talk about me.” I am glad you were able to take it in stride and get on with your life.

If the women do not trust the men, then why are they still living with them?  What kind of life could they be having in a house with an insecure woman?  I often hear how difficult bajan women are to live with and how miserable and suspicious they are.  I am also told that when a bajan man is out with his woman or wife, he is like a lamb and unable to speak to female friends, even somebody who may have gone to school with him.  I myself have had experience of speaking to a former school mate and observing his wife looking me over.  Poor girl doesn’t even know he is not my type and is not someone I was attracted to at school.

If the men have cheated, it could not have started in the marriage.  These women know very well who they are marrying.

How contradicting it is for you to comment about bajan women, gossip and jumping to conclusions. Just in case you aren’t aware what do you think you are engaging in when you listen to all the “news” this friend brings to you.Well let me put it in simple terms…you are also caught up in the gossip even if its just to listen. So go easy on bajan women..this gossip thing is world wide, no matter where you go people gossip..its a part of life.Therefore you have the choice to be “in” or “out”.Use my rule of thumb when it comes to “news”. If its about me and its true I already know and dont need you tell me and if its about me and its not true then frankly I dont need to know…end of story. You will be very surprise how people become offended when you say that but it stops them in their tracks.So my choice about gossip is quite clear…” I’m out”

I am a single woman of dual citizenship (USA and Barbados). I travel between USA and Barbados several times per year.  Unfortunately, Bajan women tend to compete for the attention of men more than American women. And Bajan women are much more naive about the ways of men and tend to fall in love and get their feelings hurt much easier than American women. American women are a bit more pragmatic and are more interested in being independent and having money.  Barbadian women (especially single women) will fight over a man who is poor and has little to nothing to offer.  Why? If a man can’t help your financial bottom line he isn’t worth your emotional energy. Ladies, make sure you use a condom and don’t walk away with anything you can’t get rid of!

This woman smell the ” rat ” that man was sneekin up on her. Some bajan men are not easy ...they think from far out.Look out for part 2 trust me.” and I fell for him”

This lady is so correct about bajan women, they take that nasty behaviour with them wherever they go even here in the Uk. You dont have to be married, just having a boyfriend with a good job is enough to make them slander your name, this is from experience as well..

I agree with what you say however this is not a problem unique to Bajan women.  Unfortunately majority of women behave like this the world over. This jealousy is present also if a couple gets divorce etc. Also I think you miss one point they are some men who will try to take advantage of recent widows or divorce women behind they wives back and then plead innocence. That is why some women as a rule will only have male friends they have known for years.

I agree with this article too much gossip and judgement.  Can’t stand the way how Bajan people look at people and automatically say they have HIV etc because they want to smear them.  I can’t believe that after all this time Bajans still acting all infantile.  Grow the heck up peope and stop being so small minded and malicious.

The contents of this article are so true.

As a Guyanese woman, I am looked at with scorn, on almost a daily basis, whenever the majority of Bajan woman hear my accent, since many of them have this misconception that we, Guyanese Women, are here to take their men and jobs.
It is here that I learnt that love should be based on nationality.
The ironic part in all of this is that when Bajan women take men of other nationality, THERE IS NO PROBLEM. Additionality, when Bajan men take white women, THERE IS STILL NO PROBLEM. Yet, when these men take Guyanese woman, you here Bajan woman say ‘they need to take their own…’

This is sad, but it is a reality.