I have seen and heard of the horrors women have done to men over the years, also of the horrors men have done to women as well but to be truthful, I have heard of more stuff done to men than women.  A real close friend of mine was seeing this woman and all of a sudden her fridge needed changing and queue the tears and stories about water leaking and the electric bill high so my friend decided to take her to courts to buy a new one. Truth be told he bought it cash as he was financially good. As soon as the fridge got to her house and it was plugged in and working, he was out the door as he bought it in her name.  The guy came in the gym and said he never even drank a glass of cold water from the fridge before he was out the door and replaced with a new fella.

O! dear me. Did you say you are all Church goers? You and your party, needs to repent!!! Go and save your souls. I would not like to attend your Church, if all of you are the example, of the congregation.

I cant deny that some of the comments are true, as a woman. However, men do exactly the same thing. A relationship is based on mutual respect, trust, responsibility, commitment, humility,openness and honesty and without both parties contributing these qualities, the relationship will not last. It takes a mature couple to go the long haul. In order to build strong families and communities, adults must show the youth how to behave and neither party, be it a male or female is a good role model if they have outside relationships. The youth will grow up thinking that this is the way to behave and pass these behaviours onto the next generation. It is time we, as adults, take on the responsibility of knowing what a real relationship is and working towards that in order for our youth to follow our lead.

The TRUTH should never hurt and it does not hurt, that is an old saying and that is why you men have always try to use it. However; it is LIES that hurts. Some women are honest and strong enough to handle the TRUTH, so therefore when they say tell me the TRUTH don’t think you need to tell us what we want to hear or concoct some story which is infact a LIE; what we mean the HONEST TRUTH, because we know how to deal with it and therefore we can handle it. Women do not ask for things we cannot handle, don’t underestimate our strength, if we cannot do it alone we have resources such as family other than men and a few good friends along with GOD. We have already had so many LIES told by 1 or more of you that we are ready for it…....meaning the TRUTH.

Here is one for you “a LIE will get around the world before TRUTH get a chance to put it’s pants on”.

All women are not the same, the problem you have, is that you got involved with the wrong women. I am a woman, and all men are not the same,i believe that they are decent men still left in this world, we just have to look hard for them and don’t jump into to bed with everyone who says that they like you.

I know for myself the tricks women play to get a man.  One such woman would cry many tears and complain to my husband that I would call and abuse her to get his ear and sympathy. She would then ask to see him and out of sympathy he would meet her, she then would call me and let me know he came to her.  Many tricks she played but in the end she lost because God has her way of intervening with evil and she is now scorned by the whole community for being a slut. My husband and I do love each other and he now realises how mischievious she was and could perhaps still be.  We are both on our guard for the future.

This happens all the time, many of us men can admit to these things happening, wife who once said if i can’t do something some one else would. so it’s all about what you can do for some of them, I set up a small shop and all my other half at the time had to do was to go in and start working, I told her i would still like to get back some of my investments i mad in the shop, she said to me that i would have to work in the shop, now a couple years after the shop is now closed and she’s now working in someone’s shop not far from where we live. One thing for sure i can say, she’s likes men for what they can give her or if they have something she can used, she will be they friend. She can not be trusted beyond your nose, now she is still living in the same house and drives another mans car maybe sleeping at him as well as she live a very promiscuous life, but the other man will have to find her out for what she’s really about. when i look back it was the biggest mistake I’ve made.

Wor of caution to both the men and women blogging here, I can inderstand the issus from both sides, but one thing I would never do as many of you’ll like to do is generalize..that is when you speak you tend to do it on behalf of all women are all men, by sayibg things like women do this and men do this…well next time try starting with I do this..I will not do this, because you are only able to speak on behalf of you and noone else. That said, I am one woman that does not believe in using men be it for sex, money or anything else of that nature, my family raised me right..I can pay my way in this world, I don’t however because I have a husband who is my partner, my lover and my friend and we share this responsibility because our relatioship is a two lane highway. I refuse to compare him to other men as others are sometimes prone to do, because what works for me would not necessarily work for others

Well brother,I hpoe you don’t go to church anymore the way you lick and brek up all the women now. You have to tone it down before the Maker bring you back to the christian feelings you seem not to have learnt in the church. By the way AIDS is one good way of learning christian feelings, so just be careful with the double battings. Chalk it up to experience and learn the lesson, Bro, forgive and move on. In case you and friends want to vent about that unfair law, vent on Sir Henry Forde.

In all seriousness, I don’t think you could ever have had as many bad experiences as I have had. My friends always told me I should write a book, it will be a bestseller. As I pressed on, I met a partner who had equally as many knocks and kicks as I had in my mature years. We are very happy together. You have to savor the bitterness wit the flavour of the mauby.

The REAL ADULTS are individuals that can handle a relationship involving 2 people and build a strong family bond. Neither male nor female wants to know that their mate is lying and cheating, this destroys the relationship. We need to take stock of ourselves as most of us say we are godfearing people then why do we “talk it” and not “walk it”. The Father is not sleeping. We may be able to fool our mate, for a while, but we’re not fooling “The Father”.

Sir, if you are satisfied and happy enjoying ‘mixed grill’ I say great. But in case you really want to find an honest & loving woman, you won’t find her in those circles.

Ever thought of traveling the world and leave island mentality behind you?

What a gross generalisation and painting everyone with the same brush.  Trust me, there are some good women (Bajan women)  and good men (Bajan men) out there. There are some very ambitious and independent women who pay their way in life and who do not sit on their backsides and wait for men to support them.  In my opinion, any one who has a partner who always ‘want’ should do some quick thinking.  To the writer of the article, I wish you luck and hope that you do not contract Aids or STDs in your quest for revenge.

yep the truth always hurt once you have been covered by a blanket of lies.and lies are always gullible.some people dont really know what they want and it goes more so for women. If a woman dont have to work that will be the most happiest day in her life so she will always hunt for men that have a soft heart and will be willing to look after their FINANCIAL NEEDS.even the women with money want a man with lots of it because they really dont want to spend their own.tek half lef half

There are still a few good men out there as well as a few good women. What happens is that we try to hurt people because we have been hurt. When we meet people we sometimes never know what they have been through and we accept payback for their previous relationships without being aware. There are two people out there for each other, be it two goods or two bads. Don’t accept less than what you have to offer and dont lash out because of your past. Love is for the long-haul and at some point we will get hurt because we at some time hurt someone and never even say sorry. What goes around comes around. Never try to put your foot in someone elses shoes. Know your size and your style and you will get a bargain.“All men/women are dogs” and yet we go around looking for dogs to lie with, and when we catch fleas we complain. Let God be the judge of people. Judge yourself.

i am from st.kitts and i can say bad things men have done to me but it wont be fair to say all men for i have known and seen some bad women bring good men to their knees!its just that we make wrong choices and most of the time take partners at face value.  and who are good talkers. i am a 51 yrs old and am a christian and am really praying to God for a mate and i know he"s out there some where for there is still good God fearing men.sometimes again we see all the signs before we go in but we ignore them and as the saying goes where angels fear to tread we run in, i have my own home and have a good job, but would really prefer to be alone and be in peace and to have a husband and be in pieces!to that gentleman please forgive and move on or else you will heart an honest woman with all that baggage that you are taking around. there are still some beautiful honest sincere loving and sweet black sisters like myself out here

I will not go as far as to say that one sex lies more than the other for sometimes it can end in a dead heat .
What i do know is many of our women through their behaviour leave a lot to be desired .Apparently many of our women ,sadly think that it is okay to lie scheme and backbite to get and keep a man.Too may of them are about themselves and in the process hurt other women .I believe some think because it happened to mum ,sister or friend that I am going to make anyone who comes my way pay .Of course it takes two to tango .Take for instance if men   were not cheating on their wives the women would not get the opportunity to use and blackmail some of them. Brother there are no saints on earth so i do not think you are without blame in some instances .We need to be true to each other . Bottomline .

that y alot of aids in barbados

No. 1 Your idea that men hit women because of what women do is false. Most of those men hit the women who do the most for them, and are perfect specimens of womanhood.

No. 2 I have to laugh at you because I find the whole story extremely funny.
You are saying you are in church, yet shacking up with a woman.

No. 3 I pray that God will forgive you for all the hate you have in your heart. A woman brought you into this world so there is no reason to continue to beat them up so.

Just remember to smile

Both the men and women of this island can be cruel, evil and vindictive to each other.  Yes women do a lot of crap and people scarcely call them out on their bad behaviour but when a man messes up he is raked over the coals.

As someone once said if men are dogs then women must be the that birth him.

Bajans..stop with the cruel, evil, deceitful, underhanded, lying ways towards each other… Women who target married men should be shame, after you get him then what.  Men who run after every skirt are you more a man afterwards?  Grow up and face life as adults and make decent decisions that have positive effects on this society