Dear Christine,
I have been trying to talk some sense into a friend of mine but she is not listening. She seems to have this notion that “I do not want her to be happy”. Please hear my story and give your wise response.
There is this man who works in the same area as she does and whom she says she loves. She is also of the opinion that this man loves her. Often, at lunchtime, they go off to various places to have sex before she returns to work.
She has been warned by three other women whom this man had dealt with that he is a womaniser and what he is dishing out to her is what he also dished out to them – sex for lunch.
I’ve told my friend she should not have people talking about her like that and that this man must be bad-talking her. I have also told her he is using her and she should stop begging him for things. In fact, that’s the only time she ever gets anything out of him.
I have also been reliably informed that he has a woman who comes and goes to his home whenever she likes. I have asked my friend to be careful but she has ignored me.
If that man really cared about her, he wouldn’t be subjecting her to afternoon sex or talking about her to his other former lovers. Don’t you agree with me? She has never yet even visited his home.
Christine, I have given her all the advice a good friend can give and she has refused to listen. In fact, she is now telling my sister she doesn’t know why I don’t leave her alone in peace. What peace?
– HURT
Dear HURT,
Do you remember the saying: “You can carry a cow to the water but you cannot make it drink?”
Well, you just cannot make your friend come around to your way of thinking. You’ve got to leave her alone.
Personally, I feel she is headed for deep trouble with that lunchtime rendezvous and just being in a relationship with a man who speaks badly about her and is seemingly involved with other women.
You have already warned her and asked her to leave this man alone for her own sake. Now, sit back, relax and be at peace with yourself. Have nothing more to say to her about this man.
However, stick around. She is going to need a shoulder to cry on when the cistern finally breaks.
– CHRISTINE
