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FULL STORY:Old woman taken from filthy home

Here, paramedics and family members assist in removing the elderly woman from the house and into the ambulance. (Picture by Jameel Springer.) The kitchen was in a nasty state. A congested and confused dining room. (Pictures by Jameel Springer.) ESTelle Butcher, 99, sitting on her bedroom floor in a helpless state. Flashback: Estelle Butcher embracing her husband, Navarro Bayley. (FP)

By anesta henry | Wed, January 23, 2013 - 1:20 PM

An elderly couple whose marriage four years ago evoked much public interest were parted yesterday when the woman’s relatives moved in and plucked her from the squalid conditions in which she was living.

After Estelle Butcher, who will be 100 on February 28, was moved out, public health workers moved in to clean the house at Dean’s Village, St Thomas. The husband, Navarro Bayley, 87,
also dirty and unkempt, kept repeating, “I love my wife.”
In one cluttered bedroom, Butcher – who mothered 10 children, of whom eight are alive – was found sitting on the floor, dazed and filthy.

Relatives took her to the Queen Elizabeth Hospital where she was admitted for a check-up and a medical report.

Relatives said they want to place her in a nursing home.

When a MIDWEEK NATION team visited the house, at the request of Butcher’s relatives, the stench in the eight-room wall building was overbearing.

Human faeces was in one room and there was also the smell of urine. Boxes and bags of garbage, empty bottles, and rotting food were all over the place.

In the yard, there were four starving dogs. Their feeding and water bowls were empty and dry.

A member of the team that cleaned the house last year said, “For weeks we have been coming here trying to get in to clean the house but he [Bayley] won’t let us get in there.”
Butcher’s grandson Sean Butcher said that the family’s relationship with Bayley was a “long story” – even before the couple got married on May 23, 2009.  

“Since she got married it became worse and he started deciding who he (the husband) wanted to come and visit her and when they should come and you must call before you come. If he doesn’t approve of your presence you can’t come,” said Butcher.

Butcher also said that Bayley barred nurses from the Warrens Polyclinic and members of the Home Help service from entering the house.
“For me as a family member my conscience is clear. Those health inspectors tried to get in to clean in there for weeks,” the grandson said.
 “He would always try to make an excuse that he would get the place clean up.

“I was told by neighbours that sometimes he left home on mornings and she was in there all by herself. He would put a sign on the door saying ‘we are out’ but the situation is that she was in there all by herself,” the grandson said.

Bayley said, however, that the claims of his inlaws were false. He repeated that he loved his wife and would always take care of her.

“Them telling lies on me. I was sick for a little while but I take care of her. Somebody was suppose to come and help me with her but I don’t know what happened,” said Bayley.
Bayley and his wife were splashed in a Front Page picture of the May 24, 2009 issue of the SUNDAY SUN which also featured them in an article headlined: Lovebirds.

They had been living together for 30 years after falling in love at first sight, they reported.

Please read the full story in today’s MIDWEEK NATION, or in the eNATION edition.

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Posted by Margaret King 1 year, 9 months ago
How did it get to this point? And why was the newspaper called in instead of a cleaning service? I'm not even sure which of the many questions I have to ask next.

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Posted by Mary Yearwood 1 year, 9 months ago
She apparently needed help long, long ago, At least she's getting the help she needs now. The hubby apparently needs help too.

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Posted by Mary Quite Contrary 1 year, 9 months ago
Her 'relatives' should be ashamed! 8 living children allowed their mother to live like this? Relatives called the media? Where were the so called relatives all along, this did not happen over night! Inspite of what life throws at us or circumstances, we must still strive to do what is right. We have to do better than this people! Thank God Estelle has finally received some assistance.

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Posted by L V 1 year, 9 months ago
I don't understand why the media was called, these relatives must be something else, unless they are trying to embarrass the 8 living children or maybe they are making a case to claim this 8 room wall building.

Isnt there a relative that could move in this home, clean it and help these seniors? I hope they don't abandon these people at the hospital.

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Posted by The Anointed One 1 year, 9 months ago
To all those who commented positively and negatively, on the behalf of the family we thank you. Just be reminded that "there is more in the mortar than the pestle" ...that was her favorite quote.
In spiritual warfare.. We wrestled not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers of darkness....but God is Almighty and he is still in the deliverance business.
I employ the hosts of heaven to war against the host of darkness. Take command over, bring to a halt, and place a moratorium on further demonic movements and satanic activities emanating from the underworld and its six regions.
I continue to release the name of this family into the atmosphere and declare that prayer warriors, intercessors, and prophetic watchmen are picking us up in the realm of the spirit. Fulfill your intercessory assignments under the direction of the Holy Spirit and Jesus Christ our Chief Intercessor.
Thanks to the media, the paramedics, the elected government officials and every one who came to our aide. We are our brother's keeper. The Grace of God be upon you.
As it is in the natural it is in the spiritual. The satanic womb has now been exposed.

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Posted by abotaahir taylor 1 year, 9 months ago
Ms. Contrary i agree with you. this is one of the examples of how society feel about the elderly ( the people that have contributed to the developement of this great country directly or indirectly) they either worked or stayed home and raise and guide the children in becoming productive citizens.
the only differnce between this case and those who are left at the QEH is that those at the QEH had everyday professional care. how many people visit their elder relatives at the Geriactric Hospital, base on a statement i read some time ago just a few. i used to work in an institution that provided care for the elderly and believe it or not hardly any relatives used to visit them and when some do, it was a signature they needed. this is a sad sad reality.
we have to take a holistic approach to this. i think B.A.R.P needs to get involved, National Assistance Board needs to get more invovled be more proactive, Urban and Rural Development should do a bit more. lastly and unfortunately people might need a bit of educating. they must know that if they cant manage the person then there are resources out there.
however we must remember that our mothers had us in their bellies approximately 9 months/ 270 days/ 6480 hours and raised some of us until we became adults guiding and teaching us.
any help we can offer them especially in their lata years we shud give without hesitation and this is one of the most praise worthy things in the sight of God.

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Posted by Lucene Marshall 1 year, 9 months ago
Let's look at the facts as they are listed.
1. This lady has 8 children who are alive ( I'm making the assumption that at least 3 of them are not disabled in any way.) Where are they? Are they afraid of an 87 yr old man, then get the law involved.
2. How often do any of them visit with their mother? I can't see how the house would get to this state if she was getting a visit at least once a month.
3. I hear about Health inspectors trying to clean the premises what did any of her children try to do?
4. Have anyone considered the mental state of the husband? I am no psychologist but if what I'm hearing is true, for anyone to be holding someone captive (putting a sign outside the door saying they are out) living in those kind of conditions would have to be mentally ill themselves.

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Posted by Glori Smith 1 year, 9 months ago
I agree with Mary Quite Contrary. Her children should be ashamed of themselves. How do they look at themselves in the mirror knowing that their 99-year old mother in living under such wretched conditions. Let's hope none of them have children that think like them. You know what they say about karma.

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Posted by june skeete 1 year, 9 months ago
Very very sad. There is NO WAY I would allow ANYONE, husband or not, to treat my mother this way, even if I got into 'trouble' for doing what I thought I should do. 8 chillun, not 8 CHILDREN.

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Posted by Biko Garvey 1 year, 9 months ago
As one of her over 9 children, 48 grand-children, and 100+ great-grand-children, I am so grateful to my cousin Sean for finally succeeding in getting this very vexing calamity closer to a conclusion. When all efforts, including prayers and hopes, seemed destined to end in failure, ALL of us in Canada, the US, England and other parts around the world would like to extend our appreciation to you, and the Nation News team that brought this horrific 31 years to an end. "Mama" will finally get some of the help that she needs and deserves, and we will at last get the unfettered access that we have been denied.

For those who state that we should be ashamed, rest assured we have been ashamed for a very long-time, as we permitted numerous circumstances to interfere with our attempts to bring back some dignity to our 'matriarch" Estelle Butcher. Now we can act to restore all the means of support and care that has been so brutally and maliciously stolen in the guise of 'relationship' and then 'marriage'.

Mama, our tickets are booked and now we know that we can celebrate your centenary with you, and, with the dignity that you have taught us. We will celebrate you, and care for you, long past your 100th, just the way we cared for your mother, our GREAT-GRANDMOTHER past her 100th in 1977.

Barbados, thanks for your support.

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Posted by Pan Wallie 1 year, 9 months ago
Some of you bloggers are forgetting a few facts:
1. the majority of elderly are set in their ways and children/ relatives have the most difficult time in coping and caring for them.
2. More than likely a rift existed between this lady and her children regarding her husband. I suppose the timing of their marriage caused a stir, impacted deeper, and obviously there was some standoff and a situation where THEY did not trust anyone in their home. One concern was the mental stabilty of this lady in particular at the time of marriage. In any event they were both up in age, so the question remains whether they acted of free will or who with an agenda orchestrated whatever.
3. They have rights, therefore children, Welfare Services, National Assistance Board's Home Help Services, District Nurses or anybody else would have to intervene with the best skills.
There are always legal ramifications and some legal eagle waiting for work.
Why ridicule the press? All they are doing is educating us on the real social problems existing in our midst.
What ever happens from here onward, and obviously it's far from over, these two people have found companionship in each other for 30 odd years. Attachment is just as great a force as love.

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Posted by SANDREA BUTCHER 1 year, 9 months ago
Lord, I want to pray for the individuals who have commented on a situation of which they know very little about. My brother has been trying to get aid for MaMa for years. He has called various agencies for years to get help. Wunna feel that this now start? Family members have come from Canada and have had very little access to MaMa. Wait, some o' wunna obviously did not read page 4A of the Nation. Wunna don't understand that 'The So Called Husband' would not let the Nurses from Warrens Polyclinic nor the Home Help Department tend to the old lady. 'The So Called Husband' did everything to get rid of the same family members that some individuals are lambasting. He see a big house and want it. The house was fine before he came there and started to do his 'works'. My aunts in Canada help to bring that house to the five bedroom house that it is. MaMa had stocks (pigs, ducks, chickens) and lots of produce and fruit trees planted. 'The So Called Husband' wanted it all.

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Posted by SANDREA BUTCHER 1 year, 9 months ago
At all of the naysayers, the same way that the Nation could have been called when it was a 'wedding' (that the family did not know about), then they could have been called when the married life was not so blissful.
@Margaret King, how would the cleaning service get access to the house.
@Mary Quite Contrary, the family finally got help, NOT 'The So Called Husband', cause he did not want any help.
@L V, 'The So Called Husband' does not want Estelle's family around to help.
@Anointed One, thank you for understanding that there are dark forces to fight against.
@Lucene, 'The So Called Husband' is not mad.
@June Skeete, the same grandson that reported the circumstances is a clean individual who would be cleaning the house all like now.

'The So Called Husband' is responsible for the state of the house. Buckets of water in the bathroom, walking through the house with the boots that he wears to tend the pigs and sheep.
'The So Called Husband' had a government house in St Barnabas and he ran it down too. The government took it away.

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Posted by Lucene Marshall 1 year, 9 months ago
Tickets are booked and the children are on their way. Unfortunately the guest of honor would probably be unaware that her children are there. This is a despicable situation. When was the last time she has seen any of you. Does she even remember who you are? No excuse, an 87 year old man can't keep strong able bodied children from seeing their mother. Poor excuse. Again what goes round comes around.

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Posted by L V 1 year, 9 months ago
SANDREA BUTCHER, I hope these are prayers of good tiding, comfort and joy so the people who commented would never face what your beloved relative faced.

Keep your prayers for yourself, family and that old lady that now has to recover from what ever she has endured.

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