Scorned by man who gave me STD

Thu, June 14, 2012 - 12:00 AM

Dear Christine,

Everybody is somebody’s fool and I am the fool in this case.

I am a Bajan residing overseas but I read your column every day. I never thought that I would need to write to you but I want someone to get a message.

I was married many years ago but that marriage lasted only a few months. I was therefore single for many years with a couple of short relationships in between.

Recently, I caught up with a guy I knew many years ago. We did not have a relationship then but we both thought that we could spend our last days together since we were now two mature people in our 60s.

As I was in love, I thought things were going well. I know now that I was not paying much attention to little hints people were giving about this man’s attitude.

I left my husband in the 1970s so I’ve never had a sexually transmitted disease – that is, until a few weeks ago. This man has suddenly become too busy to speak to me and looks at me with such scorn – as if I have the plague.

Christine, I just need an apology and hope that he sees this and is man enough to do so. He can continue to let his guilt cause him to be bitter.

– MD

Dear MD,

I am sorry to hear about your experience with this man, but what happens if he does not read the Dear Christine column?

Do you honestly think you should sit around hoping that he reads it and apologizes to you? I think you should confront him and demand an apology.

Or, you can write him and ask him to apologize – although I am not sure what an apology will do.

Your letter tells me, and hopefully all readers, that people of every age – as long as they are sexually active – should not have unprotected sex.

I know that while you seemed to have been careful all these years, it took only one relationship for you to fall victim to a sexually transmitted disease.

I hope you receive the satisfaction you’re seeking.

– CHRISTINE