SECRETS’ CORNER: That special touch

By Christian Carter | Sat, June 09, 2012 - 12:00 AM

MEN KNOW, AS WELL AS WOMEN DO, that it’s easy to find someone who makes you wild with attraction and desire at first . . . . And hard to find someone who makes you feel this way lonnnngggg into your relationship.

Here’s something you might not know about men.

Men aren’t as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion and attraction.

Have you ever had a situation with a man where the passion or the attraction seemed to fizzle out, but you didn’t know what to do about it?

Do you know how to start off conversations with a man and build the attraction that a man is feeling to the level at which he’ll be begging you for more time and attention?

Do you know how to keep the attraction going strong inside your relationship, and what makes a man stay intensely attracted to a woman well into the relationship and past the “honeymoon stage”?

A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.

A tip: when dating, a great way to create attraction with a man is instead of trying to get so serious by talking about what he does for a living, where he grew up, and so on (even though these can be important things), make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humour into your relationship from the very start.

There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.

And the universal way that men relax, have fun and bond is through playful teasing.

Flirting almost always involves some form of humour and sarcasm, as in instead of answering a man directly when he asks you what you do for a living, you look at him and think of the most ridiculous thing you could imagine getting him to believe and say that instead.

Deep level of attraction

It’s not that what you say starts off an amazing chain of events that leads down the road to building a deep level of attraction.

It’s the fact that instead of being so caught up in your mind, you’re joking, having fun, and inviting a man into playfulness with you.

Men instantly understand what’s going on when there’s a connection with a woman and she starts being playful this way, and respond by opening up and becoming more engaged and attached with you on an emotional level without even knowing it.

Of course, there is the fun and playfulness of being unpredictable as well.

Most couples get very used to each other, and how their partner will act and respond day in and day out.

Part of this is a natural progression to a relationship that provides a healthy level of predictability to things.

And if you can be the woman who also mixes this with fun, exciting and playful unpredictable things, suddenly a man doesn’t know quite what to expect.

Suddenly he’s reminded that he hasn’t quite seen everything that there is to you.

And suddenly you’re having fun teasing him and engaging in a playful back and forth that has the passion and attraction level rising all the while.

• Christian Carter is an author of ebook Catch Him And Keep Him.