Dear A

That is what ya get for having a Sugar Daddy.

What is wrong with the young people of today is that they want to live WAY above their means. They want to have the fanciest car, biggest house, jewellry brekking down them neck and top-a-de-line clothes.

So now that u get accustom to the lifestyle you aint want to leave because you probably can’t afford the nice things on your own.

I once had an encounter with an old man, old enough to be my grandfather but he thought he was the cream a ’ de crop. At the time I had no vehicle and he used to pass my way every morning and give me a ride to work and back. One day as I was in his vehicle he took my kindness for weakness and put he hand pun my leg. All I had in my hand was my cellular phone and I gave that man some blows in his head with my cell. He was so startled that he drove straight to the police station with me in the front seat and told them that I assaulted him. In my defence I told him that he should tell the police the reason why he get the blows in his head. The poor man was still in shock and told the police he would not press charges against me if I don’t press any against him. I never put eyes on the poor old soul again.

I say that to say that nothing comes for free. U think that Sugar Daddy was just giving u things because he generous? Well think again… There is always an ulterior motive, honey.

So my advice to you is to get out as fast as possible otherwise you will be on “COFFIN ARREST”. Tek my foolish advice.

GREAT ADVICE Ms Brown. I am not sure you can make her feel any worse, so good job. “Young people of today”? Nowhere did she mention an age, but she did mention SEVERAL YEARS, so she might be a young person of YOUR DAY. Sounds judgemental now doesn’t it?

This isn’t about age, or generation. This about something that has been part and parcel of society since Moses was a lad. Young woman - older man. And unfortunately, this one is abusive….in many ways.

This young lady needs the prayers and support of the readers, and maybe some real advise on how to exit this situation. Maybe family assistance, friends, some kind of “intervention” on her behalf. And I sincerely wish her all the best, and strength.

My dear I feel so sad after reading your story ! My advice to you is to put your trust in God and ask him to help you but you have to be sure you need to come out of this situation you in….because God knows each and everyone of us heart, you cannot have one foot in and one out and that means you are not sure what you really need; prayers move mountains my child! Many are called few chosen only a few genuine people in this world….I always thank God for each new day I wake and see and his presence in my life and the peace he have place with in me! It have some men and women out their who supposed to be like a father, or mother or a sister or a brother to these young people just choose to take advantage of the situation to fullfil their wicked desire;  my child just continue to pray let God take control of the situation and he will show u a way to get out. Take care of yourself I love u.

Honey you seem to be a sucker for punishment .You do not live with him how can he have you under house arrest .If you do not have a job look for one .The RBPF is there to protect you , make a complaint that he has threatened to shoot you .if possible look elsewhere to live . You went, he did not drag you .you were lured by the nice things he was sharing out .You don’t get something for nothing. 

Stop letting him abuse your mentally .You should have know that you wanted to do the things young people do before .Get a solid education , make friends not look for men.the old says that our parents and grand parents use are just not for style .Think ,think think .If you do not understand ask .Our elders went there before us . So study , are you going to let the material things offered cause you your life?Walk away or be rolled away .

Be honest sweetie. You only feel trapped because you don’t want to give up the money. Is it worth it? Call the police and tell the man that wunna done. Simple!

Don’t procrastinate and don’t be afraid. You need to get some spunk. This man will continue to intimidate you as long as he senses that you are fearful. If you are sure you are done, tell this man it is over, and that if he harasses you, you will file a restraining order against him or have him charged for threatening you.  AND FOLLOW THROUGH IF NEED BE.  Being with him was one of your bad decisions, but you can have the life you want if you love yourself.

I rarely read this column, but when I do the stories always seem fictitious, made up, an attempt by the writer to ilicicit responses from readers. The subject always comes across as naive/gullible, simplistic, silly and lacking common sense. Now I know some would opine that these stories reflect reality and perhaps they do.

In my view, the only intervention that would work for the lady is that of the Living GOD. He and He alone has all the answers to any problem, any situation which confronts a person. So I urge her to “seek Him while He may be found.” GOD possesses wisdom in abundance and is only too happy to dispense same to those who have a relationship with His Son, Jesus Christ. It’s free too.

Hmmmm:

“Often at his place”

and FEAR…..

but it’s her choice to stay…..
no wonder domestic abuse is abused or ignored in Barbados

The young lady in question who refers to herself as “A”, must really and truly want to “exit this situation” (IN YOUR OWN WORDS) in order for a change to come about. So don’t care if family or friends try to intervene on her behalf and she doesn’t really want out, nothing is going to happen. That is just the reality of the situation.

Further to that, sometimes it might be better for family and friends to sit back and give some TOUGH LOVE. That strategy work sometimes.

You know, I used to read “Dear ABBY” in the Advocate back in the sixties, and the same issues these women are having today, their grand mothers were having then. SAME ISSUES. Just different actors/actresses.
When will they ever learn?

Why does the Nation edit your comments to the extent that when there are published, your comments make absolutely no sense.

I was directing my comments to someone who made a comment in response to what I said. My comment was not slanderous, so why did they not post my comment in its entirety?

Well well, that Sugar Daddy ain’t sweet at all , he sour enough!
My advice, exit this relationship fast before you become another statistic. Learn to stand up on your own two feet and buy what you want or do without!
We all like gifts, but you must discern the spirit in which they are given.

Meanwhile pray to the Father for safety and strength to survive this ordeal and also wisdom to make better choices in life.