MANY MEN DON’T have a ghost of a chance to make it to Heaven.
The reason for this is simple – they tell too many lies and inflict too much pain on women. I know within my heart that God is not sleeping and he will judge those men who do such wicked things harshly.
I can only look forward to this ultimate judgement as there is nothing else I can do to avenge the hell my former lover has put me through.
My situation is all too familiar – my man was cheating on me, and when I heard and questioned him, he denied it. Now, he and the woman he was not supposed to be involved with have a child together.
What makes this recent happening in my life all the more horrible is that I am now pregnant for my former lover, and he wants me to get an abortion as well as making all sorts of veiled threats to me.
This is my story.
I was involved with a man for about ten years. In that time, he and I had a child together, and we got along pretty well, though his mother didn’t seem to like me very much.
Like every couple, through the years we had our problems and conflicts, but despite everything he said and did to me during these times, I never cheated on him, neither did I ever consider leaving him. He was my world and I loved him. It was my desire that our child, who looks everything like him, grow up with two parents showing him love and attention. And secretly, I always hoped that one day we would live together as a family.
Convinced they were rumours
But his mother always seemed to think I was not good enough for him. I’m not quite sure why, but the fact that I had another child from a previous relationship may be the reason.
Anyway, no matter what I did, I never seemed to please her. And, based on what has happened, she may have had some idea that her son was seeing somebody else though he was supposed to be involved with me.
I say so because three years ago I was told that my lover was involved with a woman he worked with. I heard the talk from more than one person so I asked him if it was true. He said there was no truth in the talk. They talked, as they worked in the same department, and as he was more senior, he helped her out.
So, as far as he told me, the rumours were nothing more than vicious lies being spread by wicked people who did not want to see us happy.
Of course, I believed him. Events subsequent to that suggested that he was telling the truth as well. For example, when a close relative of his died, I went with him to the funeral. And when a big show was on at the Wildey Gym, again we were there together. Because both of us do shift work, we didn’t go out much, so most of the time we spent together was at my house.
Fast forwarding, earlier this year I saw a fellow who worked with him and in talking generally he asked me how I was getting over the split. So I asked him what split? That was when he told me that my man and the girl he denied were engaged. What’s more, they were going to have a baby soon.
As this man knows him well, I immediately called my man and arranged to see him. I told him what I heard and begged him to tell me the truth.
He held my hand, looked into my eyes and told me that he still loved me. He denied he had the girl pregnant and said he liked his girls dark but not turning blue, referring to this girl’s complexion. He even told me that the girl was “no good” and he could never associate with someone like that.
Imagine my shock a couple of weeks later when a good friend of mine saw him at the hospital with the same girl after she had delivered her baby. The person told me to come immediately and I would catch him red-handed. I didn’t believe her, so I called him and he told me he was on the job and could not speak with me. I called his work and someone there told me he was off. So I went to the hospital and caught him.
When I confronted him in front of the girl, he did not say anything, but she said that they had been together for the last three years, so I had to be lying. He tried to change the subject and say that I was trying to cause trouble and he had no intention of being around people like me, and left me and the girl there.
She wanted him too
When she realised that I was not trying to be confrontational, but just seeking answers, we began to talk. That was when I heard about their engagement, and how he and I were supposed to be through. But when I mentioned the funeral and the show, both events she too had wanted to attend, he had given her such believable excuses that she never doubted him.
So we both got played, and she realised it too.
The thing is, she wanted him as much as I did, so despite finding out the truth about his double-dealing, she said she was still going through with what they had planned.
After that day he called and told me a sad story about how he made a mistake getting involved with her. He said how he is feeling nothing for the baby and is totally confused about what to do. In spite of all this talk he is still with her while I am all alone.
In the midst of all of this I missed my period and on investigation realised that I was pregnant. Now he is telling me to get an abortion and is suggesting that if I give him any problems things could happen to me and no one would be the wiser.
Each time I think about his lies, betrayal and now threats, I realise why some men grow old and end up alone with no one to love and take care of them. It’s because, like my man, when they were strong and healthy, they just hurt the women who loved them.
