WEDNESDAY WOMAN - You wrote a book called what?

DENISE CHARLES’ book How To Have Mind-Blowing Sex Without Losing Your Brain seeks to help people manage their sexuality. (Anesta Henry)

By Anesta Henry | Wed, October 26, 2011 - 12:00 AM

LOCAL AUTHOR DENISE CHARLES is aware that Barbados is a conservative society.

But she also holds that issues of sexuality need to be brought to the forefront on the island and has used her pen, paper, experience and knowledge to do so.

She penned How To Have Mind-Blowing Sex Without Losing Your Brain, a book that seeks to help people manage their sexuality.

This Wednesday Woman explained to the MIDWEEK NATION that the book, which is the first of its kind on the island, emerged from an organization she and her husband operate called Better Blends Relationship Institute, where she focuses on equipping married or single individuals with the knowledge and skills they need for better relationships.

“I know people in Barbados would have written books about relationships. But I don’t know anybody who would have written a book about sex.

“It has questionnaires, it looks at the whole issue of our attitude, how we came to feel the way we do about sex,” said Charles, who intends to break into the international market and currently writes for a popular blog called Red Red Apples.

She said the book is on e-book and was already a hit with her international readers.

But does she think Barbadians will accept the book as well as her global audience did?

She is prepared to accept whatever response she receives from the public, but based on the response she has been getting thus far, she predicts positive feedback.

“The truth is, we are dealing with a more conservative community – a community where there is lots of sex but where to some degree, some people are uncomfortable talking about sex.

“I know what I am talking about, because even with respect to publicizing the book, some people laugh, some feel embarrassed when I tell them the name.

“Some people say wow, I want to be there, I want to be at the launch. So you get the range of responses from outright curiosity to ‘what, you wrote a book called what?’

“So I think the older, conservative citizens will say wow, that is in your face, but younger people are welcoming it with open arms,” said the teacher by profession, trained counsellor and trainer of trainers who has a Master’s in psychology.

Charles also wrote Your Baby Is Coming Now – Push! (birthing your dreams). She deliberately tries to be provocative because she wants people to read what she writes.

“I am hoping that when people read the book, they will have a chance to reflect on their sexual life. It is not about how good you can have sex.

“The book will help you to understand sex and your own sexuality, understand why you have sex, why others around you have sex,” said the mother of three who has been married for 26 years.

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Posted by sandra padmore lewis 7 months ago: Openly discussing sex has always been taboo. So of course this book will bring about some debatable discussions, but knowledge is power and knowledge comes from reading and understanding and just knowing the facts. Too many of us grew up learning about sex after the fact so this book can be the “sex education” in itself…We have to be open minded and be knowledgeable.