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Hubby left us behind

Hubby left us behind

Wed, August 14, 2013 - 12:01 AM

Dear Christine,

MY HUSBAND, a non-Barbadian, left me and our two children a year ago. He was going home for a month’s holiday. He wrote one letter saying he was getting a job and would like to live in ----.

He added that he would send for us later. That was the last I heard from him. He has never called. I have heard that he has a good job and that he moved away from his parents’ home and has a nice flat. I have written several letters but have not received any response.

I am reluctant to divorce him because we all miss him so much and I still hope he’ll come back or allow us to join him.

Can you explain what this behaviour is all about and why he is ignoring me?

– P.F.

Dear P.F.,

I hate to break it to you, but it seems like your husband wants to be left alone. Why hasn’t he written or called? I don’t have the real answer, but his actions speak of someone who no longer cares.

If your letters are really reaching him, and I hope they are, it would suggest to me that he wants a complete break from you and the children.

If there is any way that you can get through to him, tell him that you miss him and you want him back. Do this before contemplating a divorce.

After being apart for a year with little or no communication, you have certain rights. Weigh your options before you do anything irrational, but don’t hold your breath waiting for him to come through the door at any moment.


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Posted by SANDREA BUTCHER 1 year, 2 months ago
My woman, get some money even if you have to borrow it, and get on a plane and go and get your answers. Enough said! Get the answers quickly so that you can move on and enjoy your children and your life. The day will come when he will be sorry, he will be old, sick and lonely and want you and those same children. Trust me!

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Posted by Cheese On 1 year, 2 months ago
Christine are you Serious? The blessings and joys of children and a wife have clearly started to bore this man and he used this 'job' overseas as a way to Escape!
It is horrible because they dress up and say vows in front of all those guests at the 'Big Wedding' then they turn and 'Walk Away' so easily. It is so sad!
Honey I would hire a Private Detective to track him down and take pics for your own 'Peace of Mind' so you know if he re-married or what he is doing and then you can move from there! Stop sitting home wondering and stressing yourself, Hire Someone to bring what is in the Dark into the Light or if you can ask your family to keep the children and Go Yourself even if it is only for a week and Get to the Bottom of it!!
Don't Lose, people do this crap all the time and you will Rise above it!!! Hope it Works out!

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Posted by Terri Hoyte 1 year, 2 months ago
So sad

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Posted by D. Stoute 1 year, 2 months ago
This is abandonment, pure and simple, ample grounds for divorce. After a year she has no obligation to pine after or sit around and wait for this deserter to show up. After a year I feel pretty positive that wherever he is he's not sitting around twiddling his thumbs being lonely.

"I am reluctant to divorce him because we all miss him so much and I still hope he’ll come back or allow us to join him."

Madam, are you serious? Did you read that after you wrote it and believed it? You may love him and miss him, but I would say from his actions he loves neither you nor your children, and shame on him. You deserve a better husband and your children deserve a better father. Do not teach your children this kind of doormat behavior.

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