MANY MEN WHO CLAIM they love big women are liars. Trust me on this. As a former plus-size woman, I went through that and believe me, it is just talk.
I am not saying that men like only small or skinny women, but what I know is that they like their women looking good, and big women have a problem keeping up with that competition. And to make matters worse, there are a lot of hot women out there.
For those of you who disagree with me, think and realize that if you are not cute, your girlfriends do not even want to hang out with you. Neither do they usually invite you out with them – unless they look worse than you.
So heavy girls, please stop fooling yourselves. There is no place for us on this Earth. I know you’re going to say that your man loves you fat, but when he sees a hot-looking woman walking by, he will pretend that he’s looking for something while looking at that girl’s behind. Then if you catch him, trouble. Trust me, I went through all of that.
That is why I am talking to all full-figured women today; I have a message which I urge you to take to heart very seriously.
Sometime ago I was involved with a man in Barbados who turned out to be just a user. I guess he talked to me only because he realized that I was doing well financially and he felt sorry for me.
Every time I was supposed to come home to Barbados to be with him, he would pick a fight with me – usually after I paid for the ticket and hotel accommodation. I would still come home and stayed alone like a fat fool.
The last straw was after I sent him money, once again, to pay a bill, and again he did his disappearing act. That is when it finally sank in that I should leave this man as he did not really care for me.
But walking away from him was the hardest thing that I ever had to do because I thought I loved him.
So I had a long, hard life in the fat lane. That all changed after I lost almost 100 pounds. I went from a size 24 to a size 14 and got all of my loose fat cut off. Now I look fab.
As a result, my health has improved. My blood pressure is now down to normal, I can work out much longer and go for longer walks without my back hurting.
My life has changed, too, because of my new look and I feel like a different woman. Men who didn’t even look my way when I was heavy are these days trying to get my attention but I don’t pay them any mind.
I no longer have to sleep alone or endure lonely nights if I don’t want to. In fact, these days I am the life of the party.
Despite this, I do not date anyone. I just laugh at the men who try to get into my bed. That is not going to happen. For me it is payback time. It’s now my turn to have the upper hand on men.
Sometimes I want to take their money and use them like my former partner did to me, but when I remember how he abused me for money and how much that hurt, I tell myself that I cannot inflict that kind of pain on anybody. So I’ve never done it.
Now that I am living on the skinny side of life, I do not ever want to be fat again. When you have size, you go through all sorts of health and emotional problems. No thanks!
I hope to one day find true happiness and love with someone who appreciates me. For sure, I know I would not have this opportunity if I were still fat. So I urge all plus-size women in Barbados to shed the load as it only brings you grief with men.
