Dear Christine,

JUST OVER a year ago I met my boyfriend and I have to hand it to him, he was upfront about the fact that he was married, but not separated.

He and his wife have no children, they'd only been married for three years, and he implied it would not be difficult to wrap things up.

In fact, according to him it would be "easy". Now over a year later, we're living together and he's no nearer a divorce.

From time to time I ask him about it and he says he won't be rushed. But Christine, I want to move the situation forward.

I thought I'd share this concern of mine with you and hear what you have to say.

Thanks.

– T.W.

Dear T.W.,

It's for your boyfriend to sort this out, and if he won't, you'll have to wonder why.

Maybe the situation suits him, maybe his wife refuses to budge and he hasn't the nerve to push her along.

More important for you, however, is finding out what went wrong with his marriage so quickly, what mistakes he feels he made, and what views he takes of commitment and live-in relationships now.

So get talking. If you don't, you could find history repeating itself.

– CHRISTINE