Dear Christine,

I am from South Africa and it was from there that I met a most wonderful person online who lives in St Michael.

I love this woman to death and would do anything for her, but my moods are playing havoc with me. I have insulted her badly with words when I was angry with her. I said things I never meant to and I am ashamed of what I have done.

This all happens because I have no patience. I say things that come to mind without thinking. All my life I have been verbally abused by my family members and I used to keep quiet when I was insulted.

I know I have been repeatedly mean and I have asked her for forgiveness but I am not sure she will forgive me, because this is not the first time I've shamed her. What can I do to get this wonderful lady back in my life?

– M.C.W.

Dear M.C.W,

From what you have told me you have repeatedly hurt this person you claim to care for and quite frankly I admire her if she has had enough of your moods.

That you have been verbally abused by your family does not give you the right to behave the way you are doing to an innocent person you claim to care for. Sorry, my sympathy goes to this person.

I hope she'll come to the conclusion that you are a risk – supposedly excusing your behaviour of the past. She is not of that era and certainly is entitled to love that heals, not hurts.

– CHRISTINE