Dear Christine,

I HAVE BEEN on my own for twelve years after my husband walked out on me. At first I didn't mind as our daughter was only a few months old and I devoted my life to her.

Now she's older and more independent, I feel lonely. I don't feel complete without a relationship, and worry about my future.

I am 38 and told I am quite attractive. There must be lots of people like me but I never seem to meet anyone who is really interested in me. Thanks for responding, which I hope you will within the fortnight I have left in your island before returning home. So where do I start?

– A.H.V.

Der A.H.V.,

Start by assuring yourself that you're not alone. There are women just like you, feeling despondent about their future and wondering if they'll ever have another relationship.

But don't despair, there's a lot you can do to help yourself. How many of the following statements have you told yourself recently?

"All good men are taken/having a child will put him off/I'm too old for this/no one will want me."

If you believe any of these, you've already given up. So change the tape in your head. Just keep going. The more men you meet and talk to, the easier you'll find it – you may even enjoy it! But don't lose your perspective.

A relationship could enrich and enhance your life, BUT it won't complete it. Only one person can do that – you. Good luck!

– CHRISTINE