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Dear Christine
Time you should be happy too
Published on: 1/25/2010.
ON MONDAY, JANUARY 18, Unhappy Lady wrote that she wanted to end her marriage because her husband didn't seem to care anymore. For two years in a row she said, she has had Christmas lunch alone.
She is from overseas, and has no family and friends here. She is wondering if she should go back and stay in her home country.
Here are some online response from readers.
* It is sad but real, he was excited with the chase and now the woman is his wife, the relationship
has lost its excitement for this man.
Perhaps the couple do need counselling as they may have different views on marriage and the woman's role.
That's probably what the case is as she comes from overseas and he from Barbados, and we have different views on relationships and marriage.
I hope that you both take time out to get some professional help before splitting up.
Wishing you all the best.
* Do whatever your gut instinct tells you to do . . . the man is clearly not insterested in you and if I were you, his clothes would stay dirty, he would come home and find no food and he would be made to sleep on the couch or the floor [hopefully both are equally uncomfortable] . . . do no take the nonsense . . . he's happy and you should be too.
6 comment found!
TIME TO BE HAPPY : 2/7/2010
I think you should move over seas and leave the loser, What goes around come around, So he is the loser
Time to be happy! : 2/4/2010
If this creep wants to be alone,Solet it be written,So let it be done!Kick his "BEEP-BEEP"to the curb.A couple means two,one is singular,moreso let him go play with himself!
3 Little Words : 2/4/2010
Love doesn't hurt.
Time you should be happy too! : 2/2/2010
As i read this i thought a friend was telling my story...
I'm going through the same, but worse because my husband hasnt spent Christmas or the new years with me for many years. i just stay in bed as long as i can, get something to eat and cry my sorrows away...He has had countless women over the years, has promised that he wouldnt do it again because he loves me and as soon as he feels i've forgotten and half trust him again, we're back to square one again. When i ask him to talk to me so i can change anything about me and sort our marriage out he refused point-blank to communicate with me. Infact, I have even told him that if he wants to be with someone else and doesnt love me anymore, let me know so that i can move on and not comtinue in a loveless marriage but he never leaves. This has been going on now for over 18 years. So my answer to this lady, would be to get out, as i have just done in the last three months and enjoy the balance of your life. I wish i had done it sooner, when i was of child bearing age so i could of had the children that i always wanted as he didn't want any. I cried alot but now i love myself and even though he wants me back, as i was a excellent wife, if i may say it!!! attentive to his every need. The attention from the opposite sex and friends has shown me that i wasted many years and wont be ever doing that again.
TAKE THAT STEP AND SEE FOR YOURSELF, IF SOMEONE LOVES YOU THEY WOULD NEVER HURT YOU DAY AFTER DAY AFTER DAY.
Sophia
Communicate : 1/29/2010
Here's a novel idea ... why don't you ask him why he does not spend more time with you????? Tell him how you feel when he ignores you or he isn't around. You took the time to write to the paper and ask for other people's opinions, now take the time to talk to him from your heart.
Honest communication is key in any relationship. If he cares for you, he will listen and share his thoughts and make changes that are mutually beneficial. If he doesn't, he won't and that's when you have the answer you are waiting for, one way or the other. Counseling is always a good idea but talk to him first. The other advise you got from the readers is ignorant. Revenge is never the way to go and assumptions are ridiculous. Communicate.
Too One-sided fro me : 1/25/2010
Get the man here and let's grill him. There are two sides to every story, and one like this needs information from both parties before we "pull out the knives".
Failing that, we must be very careful about how we throw around blame.
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