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I CONFESS: Just another lying man!
Published on: 11/14/2009.
WHY DO MEN lash out at women even though they are wrong?
This is a question I have been asking myself since my last relationship ended.
And you know what? I still don't know the answer.
I have asked other women and they all tell me that is how men are - they like to be wrong and strong. They all told me that men can't help lashing out at women because they think that they are superior to us and should be able to do what they want, and we should accept it.
If this is true, I am not sure if I would ever get involved with a man again because I have no intention of letting anyone take advantage of my love anymore, and then ill-treating me. I deserve better. I am too good a person to be treated in this manner.
This is what happened to me: I was involved with a man for several months and cared for him very much. He was in a spot and asked me for a loan. We agreed on how and when he should pay me back.
But soon after I lent him that money he started behaving differently. After a while, I got the impression that he was looking to cause a noise whenever he could so he would not have to be with me anymore.
I told him that and we had a blow-up. After that, he kept his distance.
Then, one day after we had a noise about when he was going to repay me, he called and said that my daughter was raped by three boys at the secondary school she attends. He said the principal tried to get her and when she could not, the daughter gave her his cellphone number.
I get frightened, started crying, and called a taxi to rush me to the school. But when I got there, I was told nothing so ever happened. He lied. He made me panic for no reason.
I swear that he wants me to have a mental breakdown. I just can't understand how anyone, man or woman, could even do something as nasty as that.
I don't know how he could have done that when he has two daughters of his own. It seems he doesn't realise that the sins of the father rest on the head of his children.
Since then he would not speak to me. He would not take my calls - nothing. Yet this was a man who swore he loved me and whom I treated better than any woman ever had.
He was just another liar. Men!
12 comment found!
: 11/20/2009
LEAVE THAT MAN FOR GOD TO DEAL WITH. ALL MEN ARE NOT LIARS SO DON'T GIVE UP. THERE IS STILL SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU.
FEMALE CC
: 11/20/2009
Unfotunately some men and women behave in this manner. All I can say cut your losses anget this man out of you life and remember the saying 'never be a lender or borrower' In any new relationship and someone wants to borrow money do not lend money get out instead
Just another lying man : 11/19/2009
Just another lying man or just another foolish woman? you said there were agreements on how the loan will be repaid. If they were not on paper in black & white with his JH, then i am sorry sister you are just another fool. You women succumb to these unscrupulous deals hoping to hold on to your man. When your man only want to take your money and move on to the next victim. Ladies lend him the money if your heart wants you to, but common sense should have a part in asking him for a IOU note to cover your ASSets.
SAD... : 11/19/2009
I have alway wondered why men why profess to love their mother's would turn aroung and treat a woman like she is not worthy of being respected...they just seem to be too many men and too many women willing to close their eyes and to turn off their commond sense when they are 'in love' so they end up like this lady...writing a newspaper looking for answers that she already knows.
lying man : 11/19/2009
The man loved you for only his reasons, To loan a person money just after dating a few months was not a good decision by you. This might be regular habit with him while pretending to love women. This type of thing goes both ways as well.
: 11/17/2009
Girlfriend -- you seem like a trusting person and there is nothing wrong with that, in order to love unconditionally you have to be vulnerable and can sometimes get hurt in the process -- let me give one piece of advise, when a man wants to bother money after only a few months of being in a relationship - run - most decent and honorable men would slit their risk before asking a woman who they've just met for money -- men who like to take things from women are bread and fish users. When you see them coming run like hell.
I CONFESS: Just another lying man! : 11/16/2009
Women we need to force men to be men. We should allow them to take care of their financial situations. It should not be dumped on you as soon as you get to know the man. A lot of men use women financially but thats because the women agree to it and women use men in the same way. People take your time to get to know others and try to keep finances out of the relationship or agree to write receipts for the money you lend to others.
Don't Blame The Man : 11/16/2009
You have learn a good lesson. Next time encourage the m-a-n to solve his own financial problems as well as to run, girl, run!
Lying woman : 11/15/2009
"Are you for real", what is it that make you think you treated him better than any other woman had? Because he told her so? Why do you think her story is fishy? Most women don't think when they hear something like that happened to their child and there are men who do those kinds of things. He is the pathetic one here. He borrowed money from a woman he claimed to love and now to avoid paying her back he is resorting to childishness. Don't kill yourself over losing him. Some men are liars some are just immature but there are many who are worth it. Take at least a year before you get to know someone. A man worth keeping will be willing to get to know you and he will not be too quick to tell you he loves you. I know it is flattering to hear a man say he loves you six months into a relationship but does he really know you well enough to love you in such a short time. You have a young daughter, you cannot risk getting involved with a man whose real target is your daughter. Be careful.
god : 11/15/2009
mistake are part of life so what she word it wrong she was trying to say as i get it>.... that the guy called her and told her that HER DAUGHTER was raped and the principal could not get her so HER DAUGHTER give the principal the boyfriend number WHAT SO HARD OR A LIE ABOUT THAT?
lying woman : 11/14/2009
"Are you for real", what is it that make you think you treated him better than any other woman had? read this part of your story, these are your exact words...."Then, one day after we had a noise about when he was going to repay me, he called and said that my daughter was raped by three boys at the secondary school she attends. He said the principal tried to get her and when she could not, the daughter gave her his cellphone number".....that alone, to me, spells LIE, in trying to put together the LIE your wording was wrong, it made no sense. If this is any consolation to you....the sins of the father/mother no longer rest on the head of their children, the parent themselves are living long enough nowadays to have to deal with their own sins. Don't put together a story just to get sympathy, it smells fishy all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!
: 11/14/2009
First off that was a sick thing to do, so you now know that he is a SICKO! Women have to learn the first rule, men and money do not mix, when will you learn, just say NO. That is when you will find out why he is there, if you refuse often enough and he leaves then you have lost nothing but that theiving fool, if you give him the money and then he leaves because he does not want to pay you back then you have lost your money and the theiving fool. WOMEN, DO NOT LEND MEN YOUR MONEY. WAKE UP!
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