Tempted to have sex before I get married

shadiasimpson, shadiasimpson@nationnews.com

Added 08 November 2012

dearchristine1

Dear Christine, I will be 22 years old on my next birthday and the man who says he will marry me is 26. He has not yet told his parents and I have not told mine that we are planning on getting married. He tells me he will speak to my parents shortly, and that he would like us to be engaged for at least four months before the wedding. He said, however, that he would like the wedding to take place next year – at all costs. My problem is his constant arguing. He feels that since we will be getting married soon and engaged even sooner, it is okay for us to have sex. I am a bit hesitant. I always wanted to get married while still a virgin. Also, what do you think my chances of marrying him will be if we become sexually involved now? Christine, I’ll be honest and frank with you, as much as I am tempted to give in, I am a little scared. Even though this man swears that he is in love with me and loves me enough to marry me, there are some women I know who are still trying to get his attention and we quarrel over them as well. What do you think I should do? – P.P.   Dear P.P., I think that you should stick to your convictions. Your chances of being wedded are better if you keep from being bedded. Right now all you have are promises – not even an engagement ring to at least say he is truly committed to you to some extent. If he loves you as much as he says, then he can wait or fast-forward the wedding date. – CHRISTINE

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