Jason and Peta Pile. (Picture by Dominique Bonnett.)
When something is meant to be, nothing in this world can stop it from coming to pass. Especially when God is at the centre of it all.
When Jason Pile met Peta Rowe-Forde, now Peta Pile, “many years ago”, his initial reaction was, ‘Wow, they still make them that beautiful?’
Jason, a delivery guy, was making a delivery to Peta’s house and that was the first and last interaction they had for a while. But that impression was so lasting that when he saw her again five years later he immediately recognised her and knew he had to get to know her.
“About five or six years passed and I saw her on the truck at St Philip carnival I think in 2011 or 2012. A lot of years had passed but she was so stunning I could not forget her. Then I knew a mutual friend of ours and I asked her to introduce us and about two years or so went on and it never happened. Then I asked the mutual friend, ‘Where’s the girl I always asked you for?’ and she said, She’s here, and she brought her. This was at a party. And she came and I said to her, ‘Hi, how are you? I keep asking for you’. She replied ‘I’m okay.’ That was it,” Jason recalled.
Peta’s first impression of Jason though was vastly different from his.
“I was like why is this big man talking to me? That was the first time I saw him and that’s what I thought,” she said with a shy chuckle.
In an intimate interview at Gun Hill Signal Station, where the couple got married in November of 2016, the love and friendship between the two was clear and calming to watch as they reflected on how they became friends and eventually ended up married.
After their first official meet-up, a friendship started to blossom. A strictly platonic friendship though, the couple repeatedly reiterated. There was absolutely no romance or sparks involved in the early years of their friendship.
“Our friendship started to take off in 2013. He used to call me and talk for hours and hours on end. For me I was adamant that I didn’t want anything romantic. I was entertaining him because he used to talk to me and we were cool as friends. I never wanted things to go any further or anything like that,’ Peta recalled.
Jason shared her sentiments, stressing that it was just a cool vibe.
“I would call frequently because in conversation I would realise how mature she was and it was real interesting. She would appreciate a lot of older music and so on. We never talked about anything relationship based at all,” he said.
However, as fate would have it, feelings started to develop and the sparks started to fly. Jason told EASY that the girl he enjoyed talking to quickly became his best friend.
“We became very close. Then everyone would ask why we don’t get together and ask what we were waiting on. So we would ask why two people can’t be friends. The more I thought about it I realised they were right and I really liked this girl and wanted more from our friendship. I got this good idea to ask her to be my girlfriend. We were driving Old Year’s Night and I was building up the courage all the time to ask her. I simply said, ‘Would you be my girlfriend?’ and her response was ‘Sure’,” he said while gazing lovingly at his wife.
What transpired after was nothing short of a fairy tale for the very creative couple who, for the year they were boyfriend and girlfriend, went above and beyond to express their love for one another. For Peta, it was as though she was living every female’s dream.
“It was a good phase, really romantic. A lot of things I never used to do he would take me to do. I remember one time he bought me this outfit and gave me these tickets and told me we are going on a fun day. That day we went on the Atlantis Submarine and toured Harrison’s Cave. Valentine’s Day he made me do a treasure hunt all over Barbados. Every stop had different gifts. It all ended at Tiami with a sunset cruise,” Peta said.
For Jason, it was as though he had just woken up.
“I felt like I was dormant and had been sleeping my whole life. And all these new experiences and flashes of emotion was so amazing. So that’s where all the romantic ideas would come. We are both very creative people in expressing our love for each other. I knew she would appreciate those things,” he said.
After living out such an amazing year as a couple, Jason knew he could waste no time in making the woman of his dreams his wife.
“Spiritually and emotionally we really connected. I would tell her I was going to marry her. When I realised this could really be the one to marry, I started to ask her family’s permission. Everyone was very approving of it. So then I had to set about thinking of how I was going to execute the engagement. In August I got a piece of string to get her ring size and it was a mock wedding kind of thing on the boardwalk. We said I do’s and what not, but it was just to get the ring size,” he revealed with a laugh.
An unassuming Peta never knew that this was what Jason was up to and admitted that during the interview.
Jason asked Peta to be his wife on New Year’s Day at East Point in St Philip just as the first light broke the sky. Peta told EASY magazine there was never a doubt in her mind what her answer would have been.
Life for the couple, who dress alike and do almost everything together, is good. But as with all relationships, theirs has its fair share of challenges. And this couple admitted that they faced plenty from the very start of their relationship.
“They were lots of challenges. She’s now 25 and I’m 35, so at first people were asking, ‘What is she doing with him?’ But she is mature beyond her years. Then they were outside forces like family drama and those kinds of things that would also be challenging,” Jason said.
But their love was so strong they allowed nothing to break them. According to Jason, with God’s help they made it.
“Prayer, supplication and karaoke got us through the rough times,” the couple said, followed by a shared laughter.
Jason added, “I realised what was important. Despite the challenges, I would always tell her that she could always depend on me. I always told her I would never let her touch the ground.”
For Peta, being married is the biggest challenge their relationship has ever faced.
“The old people usually differentiate between ‘come see muh and come live wid muh’. Let me tell you that is the truth. I does quarrel every day, every single day. Even though I would have spent a lot of time at his house before we were married and him by me, it is completely different when you are living with someone full-time. You may think it’s just two of you at the altar you are wrong. You are marrying years and years of customs.”
“So, if for example I’m accustomed putting my food in a little dish and then putting it in the fridge as opposed to Mr Man here who is just going to take the entire saucepan and just put it in the fridge and then nothing else can’t hold in the fridge, I get so annoyed,” she said while shaking her head at her husband.
She said those were little things you had to learn to accept and work through them together.
“ . . . . You have to learn to compromise a lot to because, yes, we do a lot of things alike, we dress alike and so on but we still have to respect each other’s differences. Jason loves football and I can’t take the buzzing sound in my ears all the time. It drives me crazy,” she added.
Jason agreed that marriage has been challenging but stressed that it was the best decision he has ever made in his life.
“Marriage has been challenging. Like on the actual wedding day we had weather challenges . . . . My best man couldn’t make it day before . . . . What marriage has taught me is that irregardless of what life has to throw at us if we talk it out and put two heads together then we will make it through,” he said.
And their secret for making their love last? The very charming couple said it all boiled down to acceptance, selflessness and communication.
Peta said, “Communication is the key to making love last. A lot of frustration and anger that leads to the end of relationships come from expectations. And if your expectations are not clear or they aren’t properly communicated you could end up in problems.”
Jason added, “There is nothing that she would not do for me and I know that as sure as I’m sitting here breathing, I hope she knows there’s I nothing I wouldn’t do for her.” (DB)