Should I tell him about my feelings?


Added 30 October 2012


Dear Christine, I AM A 36-YEAR-OLD single woman who is madly in love with a man but he has no idea how I feel about him, even though we speak to each other casually. Christine, he is always on my mind. I have tried shaking him off and even ignoring how I feel about him, but it just is not working. I consider myself a very shy person and so I am not one to make the first move when it comes to matters of the heart. I have been hurt in the past and I do not want to endure another heartache. This guy is friends with another guy I know, and he tells me the man is single but he is uncertain as to whether or not he is unattached, meaning he does not know if he has a steady girlfriend. I am thinking about letting my male friend put in a word for me and see if that leads somewhere. Do you think I am doing the right thing or at least going the right route if I choose this plan of action? – Rose   Dear Rose, I see no harm in your suggestion. If you are comfortable with this way of getting this guy’s attention, go right ahead. Something you must also realize is that some men are also shy when it comes to befriending women. I am sure many will tell you that they also need that extra push when trying to attract members of the opposite sex. One of two things will happen when your friend approaches this guy; he will either say he is interested or he is not. I caution you to prepare for either of these responses. I hope you get a positive response. – CHRISTINE


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