I HAVE BEEN MARRIED for the past 11 years and have two small children. My husband often travels overseas because of his job, and that is where my problem started.
After one of those trips, I saw a text message that read: “Sweetie, wish you were here with me now. Missing you so much”.
When I confronted him, he called the woman in front of me to try to calm me down.
Christine, I found later emails suggesting that he was close friends with not one, but four different women from two of the places he travelled.
The problem is that I have no proof about his affairs, but I am concerned by what I have seen. I am at the point of my life where I am not sure if I want to go on living with a man I no longer trust.
He is very friendly and flirty, so women would naturally like him.
I am tired of double-checking and now he locks his phone and is very secretive. I want to end it, but I worry about our little ones.
What should I do? Should I stay and try or should I leave and wonder? I am very confused right now.
With all that you have encountered and discovered, it is natural to be very concerned. Your husband must know that you have lots of cause for concern and with him obviously covering up, you’ve every right to feel uneasy.
I suggest that both of you seek counselling to get to the bottom of the matter.
Love and forgiveness can heal the hurt and regain trust. That can happen if your husband truly loves you.