DEAR CHRISTINE, I am writing to you about someone I would call an “on-and-off friend”. We have known each other for years but a lot of time would pass when I don’t see him and then suddenly he turns up again.
One of those times he turned up he told me he was married but it was a mistake and he would like us to become more than friends.
I always liked him but since he never made the move to say anything to me, I was too shy to tell him. Now he wants me and I am finding him very hard to resist.
My parents have a little shop and I help out during the weekends when he comes around to chat me up. In between he calls me on the telephone. He really is charming. I’ve promised to meet him at the cinema but I am not certain if it is the right thing to do. Please tell me.
You already know it would not be the right thing to meet this man at the cinema. Forget his charm and think how deceptive he is. He will probably have to lie to his wife to keep his cinema date with you.
When he calls you he has to do so in secret. Can you really put your trust in a man who is trying to two-time his wife?
I suggest you get your relationship back to its friendship base. If this is not possible, then give him up altogether. It might hurt for a week or so but you will be well out of a lot of pain in the long run.