Dear Christine,

I'M IN MY 50s, and I have been with a lovely man for the past four years. He was married but separated, and I really felt we had a future. But now he has admitted he still loves his wife and wants to try again with her.

Christine, they're not back together yet but he is urging me to move on. Needless to say I am devastated. Do you think there is a chance he'll return me?

– ISLAND FAN

Dear I.F.,

This is really tough, but he's giving you a clear message. And maybe by remaining married he was doing that all along. No doubt he did care for you, but at the same time he meant to keep his options open.

Your task right now is to believe that life can become good again after this disappointment. Do your best to look forward, not back.

– CHRISTINE