Thursday, March 28, 2024

DEAR CHRISTINE: Boyfriend doesn’t appreciate me

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Dear Christine,
Keep up the good work you are doing. My boyfriend is 59 years old and I am 49. We have been together for four years now. The only time he tells me he loves me is if I say it first. Other than that, he says nothing.
He lives alone and is financially stable. I wash, cook, clean and so on for him, yet if I ask him to come and assist me with anything at my home, it’s a problem. I work two days a week and have a child at college.
Sometimes he’ll hear me telling her I don’t have any lunch money to give her, yet he says nothing.
When I swallow my pride and ask him [for assistance], he would say he cannot read my mind, to ask for what I want. Christine, I was not brought up to ask for anyone’s money. He should be able to see my worth and appreciate me.
Since I met him, he has achieved so much and improved himself a great deal. His family is amazed. When we are out together and his phone rings, he would always say that people don’t need to know his business. If I call him when he is out, he tells me the same thing.
This man has never paid me a compliment but is quick to insult me. I am thick with a good shape, not fat, but when he sees a woman with size it’s always an insult. Our sex life is routine; with him satisfying himself and just leaving me there. When I mention it he says I fret too much.
Christine, at 49 years old, all I want is someone to love and appreciate me for who I am. Life is too short. I just want to be loved. I have my own home, car and so on. Things are a bit rough now because I have a lot of medical bills but I can handle my own. It’s not like I am depending on him.
Tell me what to do.
– APPRECIATE ME
Dear Appreciate Me,
I will first sum up my answer in seven words, then proceed to explain why. Here’s my initial response: stop wasting your time with this man.
Here is why you need to call it quits. He does not love you; he is selfish and you’re going nowhere with him. You wash, cook and clean for him, yet he is ungrateful and does little to help you.
He treats you no different from his “other friends”, whoever they are. He cares only about himself when it comes to love-making and you really don’t need him. These are all confessions that you’ve made.
What are you sticking around for? To waste another four unsatisfied years with him? You’re yet young. Get out there and meet people. Go to church if you do not yet go. Try seeking a full-time job, even though I know things are hard right now, and leave this man out of your life. Enough said!
– CHRISTINE

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