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I CONFESS: Once bitten by a woman . . .
Published on: 11/14/2009.
WOMEN NEED TO STOP crying down men because they are not perfect. Every week some woman talks about how some man did this and did that to them, but they need to ask themselves why he did it, and what the woman before her would have done him.
What happens to women happens to men, but women try to make it look like men are the worst people on God's earth, and yet some of them have done far more hurtful things.
My children's mother and I were together from schooldays; I loved her a lot and was going to marry her. We had two children and had a lovely home which I worked to build, or should I say, almost killed myself to build.
Don't get me wrong, she was the brains behind it - she forced me to get a house as we were living at family and that was not good.
So the house came and she decorated it nice and fancy; it became a home. At that time we were both working but I paid all the bills and shopped almost every week. And I still gave her money because I worked for more money than she did and I loved her. I even gave her a nice little car to drive - so she had hers and I had mine.
This woman got everything that she wanted and more and then trouble started; friends came into the picture and the police, too.
I started to see a change in her so I sat her down and talked with her. All the while she was telling me I was wrong, but I wasn't. To make a long story short, she had a man on me.
Would you believe that after everything came out she would let the man come home with her everyday from work and allow our children to see her kissing another man, not to mention everyone else.
She just stopped caring for us and only for herself. I came home one day from work and found his clothes on the line and his food cooked. Well, I would not have to tell you how I got on. So she called the police for me. It got to a situation that she called them for me far more often than the home phone would ring for me.
The move that hurt the most, though, was when I got a letter from her attorney telling me that I have to leave because the house is on her family's land and I don't have any say. And to show how spiteful she was, while I was reading the letter she was in front of me with a smile on her face telling me I have to go.
As for our kids, I could not believe that because she left me for another man that she would treat our two children in the manner that she did. She would always be shouting at them; she even stopped carrying them anywhere, and I was left to deal with them.
I make sure I get home early from work to help them with their homework. I make sure that they are not hungry; I bathe and put them to sleep by a certain time.
I take them for doctor's visits too - I am now playing the part of mother and father because their mother, the woman that I had loved so much, has picked up a drunkard.
Now tell me, how must I treat the next woman that comes along in my life?
Should I treat them the same way or don't give a damn about them?
I have two beautiful children that I love more than anything in this world, but as for their mother, she can keep the man that she has.
I love my children and they love me more than ever because I am always there for them.
9 comment found!
Once bitten by a woman . . : 11/20/2009
How should you treat the next woman? You should treat her as she deserves. The next woman is not the woman who did you wrong and should not have to pay for what the first one did. Everyone deserves to be judged on their own merit.
bitten by woman : 11/19/2009
This is something that happens regular, how it is dealt with is important, not all men/women are of the same. No one knows what will happen during the course of a relationship, be sure to know that there's still someone out there who will be different. Never think that all women/men will behave like this.
He can't be that bad... : 11/15/2009
Yes there are two sides to a story or maybe three. However, realize that this woman was with this gentleman from school days. If he was doing something wrong she should have left long ago. Also, she abandoned her children. Who mother does this to her "gifts from God?" Here is the realization: Human beings usually want sometime that there have never had or experienced even if it is not a wise move. It is the challenge in it that gives the turn-on. I am sure that a drunkard could never make her happy. If this "new" man was any good, he would have told her to take care of her children. He would have told her to respect their home. When the challenge is over I am sure this lady will end up very depressed. I HOPE THIS MAN FORGIVES HER BUT MOVES ON. It is better to be lonely than live in misery. Finally, men suffer at the hands of women as well. We only hear about women because we are the talkers and "venters". Men keep silent and seldom put pen to paper about their hurt. I wish him and his children all the best... What soever we sow we will reap...it is biblical...
Once bitten by a Woman : 11/15/2009
Dear brother, you asked the question 'How must i treat the next woman that comes along in my life"? I say to you that you must treat her with love and respect, if you want a man or woman to treat your children with respect.
: 11/14/2009
First of all......you need to get rid of your baggage before you pick up another woman....meaning....... all the bitterness, hatred, anger and whatever else you may be carrying. Also remember this, it seems from what I am reading that you are in charge of the kids, very god, but don't look for the next woman you may pick up to automatically be a mother to them. If you need a woman just to satisfy your feelings or desires, that may be all well and good for you, but to be someone really interested in your children's welfare, that will take a lot of time. Therefore you may need to keep other women that are just for your as I mentioned before desires away from your kids, only introduce them to someone when you think that is the person you really want to be with, that is why it SHOULD take a while. Children are delicate and precious little creatures.
Don't punish all for one : 11/14/2009
No woman should have to pay for what another woman did so I cannot accept your opening statements. Are you telling me that I should accept bad treatment from a man because he was hurt by the woman before me. I lived that, imagine being everything that a man says he could want, yet he treats you with disrespect because he was hurt by someone else. He cannot see that holding on to his pain is making him unavailable to someone who truly loves him. Don't let this happen to you. I read about an old man 94 who got married for a forth time after losing two wives to death and another to circumstances. Don't give up on all of us women because of one. If you did anything to push her away then you need to acknowledge it and work on changing it- a woman does not just up and horn a man she had from school days. She had to push you to build a house even though you were living at family? I sense that you have kept back some information that would not make you look as perfect as you claim.
Don't be bitter : 11/14/2009
Give yourself time to get over your ex-wife and take care of your children. Take a lesson from 'young boy' and keep love in your heart. Love who loves you and treat them with respect. Unfortunately you have had a taste of what the majority of women have to deal with and I hope it makes you more understanding of how difficult it is to raise children on your own. I'm sorry for your pain but I cannot help but wonder if you were coming home early and taking care of the children when you were with your wife. Some men neglect their families when they are looking for money and from your letter it seems that you believe that coming home early, helping with homework, bathing children etc is the mother's job. Perhaps she was impatient with the children because she felt alone. You only talk about giving her a house and a car but did you talk to her, spend time with her, make her feel special? Perhaps the 'drunkard' is doing something for her that money, a house and a car can't compete with.
: 11/14/2009
You treat a woman the way you should, with respect. Just because one person did you a wrong does not mean someone else should suffer the consequences. There are two different people and situations. Did she treat you badly because some man wronged her, I hope not.
Cheating Women : 11/14/2009
It does not matter what you do or give some women they will horn you be glad that you found out when you did, she will want to come back to you sooner or later. The other question is what did you do that caused that change in her, we are only hearing your side, a storey has three side yours,hers and the truth.
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