Meet The Need : 12/11/2009
With Christmas around the corner, the story of this woman is heart breaking: But women should know by now, that most of the men will abandon them and the kids at some time. Forget the ex-husband he is neither worth the worry nor hassle, from what I read the children is better off without him. Women, take note before you lay with a man, ask yourselves, if you are ready to support kids by yourselves. By the way, many men are fantastic fathers, and love their women and kids: Don't there have organizations in Barbados to help you out. Many churches have Christmas hampers for communities in need. Telephones some churches don't be proud; you are doing this for yourselves, and kids. Remember, God is still on the Throne and He promised, He will supply all our needs according to His riches in glory. In Psalm 62:1,2...My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from Him. He alone is my Rock, and my Salvation, He is my Fortress, and I will never be shaken. Keep the Faith Dear Mom. And do have a merry Christmas and a prosperous New Year. Bogglers and Returnee Nationals this women and other in Barbados need your help at this time, Christmas. Will the Newspaper post the Name of reputable Organizations like Olga Lopes Seales where donations can be sent. Thanks for your corporation.

Dead Beat : 12/11/2009
Bajan4real: You are no BAJAN. How could you say most bajan women are uneducated. Please, speak for yourself. Your diction is poor, your spelling is atrocious, you must not have gone to school, in Barbados anyway. We Bajans pride ourselves in the fact that we "live close to church and school", but that little phrase may lost on you. Dead beats abound, and children should not have to suffer, because parents forget that they didn't asked to be birthed. I hope that he gets his just reward. all the best lady stay strong and stay on your knees. God hears and see all. God bless.
Brownskin1Bajan in Boston

: 12/11/2009
I have 4 children who I have raised myself after I got rid of the man who was both my husband and father to all of my children. I worked in the evenings and put myself through college to gain my degree in order to become a social worker. It was more thaan hard and there were days went I felt like I couldn't and didn't want to carry on, but I did and I succeded. My eldest who is now 26 has his own business, my eldest daughter is a qualified nursery nurse, my second daughter is at college study media and my youngest is 14 and doing really well at school. Their father refused to help out financially, in fact he even told people, including my children and the courts that the children weren't his, which p...ed me off at the time, but he's eating his words now as he wants to shine in their successes and achievemnts and talks about 'his yout them' to any idiot that will listen - funny that the children have little contact or time for him now, which is their choice and now he wants to blame me for turning them against him and when they needed him he wasn't interested.

Dead Beat. : 12/11/2009
My Bajan sister I agree with all u have said. Men really need to get it together and stand up to their responsibilities. No person is perfect, neither can all of us be of the higher echelons of society but we must take responsibility for where we are and where we are heading. Women take responsibility for ur sexuality and each time you have sex consider the fact that ypu can get pregnant. If u know u cant afford a child financially, emotionally or otherwise; either u or the male make it right. Prepare for the worst. THINK. Chose ur actions based on your capabilities. No protection no sex. Its YOUR body.

Deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/11/2009
This is very sad that we can bring children into this world and then abandon them. My advice to the mother is to do her best to raise her sons and stop depending on Mr. Dead Beat. You do not need him - my mother raised six of us without a man. We all turned out very well - you can teach your sons to be real men when they grow up. And you do not have to be negative to them about the man that fathered them. His turn will come. God will provide - you just have to recognize the path he puts before you.

to Bajan4Real : 12/11/2009
Are you serious, talk about the pot calling the kettle black! You can't spell! I got a headache reading both your comments. And you must be a few cards shy of a deck if after reading a grammatically correct article written by the woman, you though she needed more schooling. 'Poor background is a diesease' that I think only you caught.

: 12/11/2009
I will say this when society see some adult children leaving their parents on the wayside remember this story about how some parents not supportig their children financially/emotionally etc. Not everyone has the ability to forgive bad things that has happened to them in the past.

Slavery Revisited : 12/10/2009
I am deeply concern with the absence of men in our society, particularly as it relates to their role as fathers and just " men" in general.I am a bajan male who lives in Michigan, USA and it seems that no matter where our black families live, there are critcal issues with black men taking responsibilty for their families. The lack of men assuming their responsiblities is leading to the complete breakdown of the family unit and thus black homes are destroyed. I am tired of our women having to bear the responsibities of rearing children while the men boast of their sexual vitality.In every part of the world where our men reside there seem to be some inherent disrespect towards black women particularly.I pray to God that some day soon blackmen and blackwomen will begin to respect each other to stop this curse. This can only begin with the men respecting the women first, so that she can walk with her head held high and not downcast.
Michigan Bajan Man

Deadbeat leaves children : 12/10/2009
As a child of a "deadbeat father", mine should have left but he never. He stuck around put a roof over my head and criticised, blamed and put me down. He even told me at 5 years old that I wasn't his "I was found by the rubbish tip". Thanks to him my siblings never accepted me as a family member and they continually use me like the "black sheep" to blame me for all the things that go wrong in their lives. He's still a deadbeat now and gave no love, attention or encouragement to his children. Sometimes when a father is like that it is better to leave the household than stick around and cause more confusion. We never got birthday or Xmas presents and he lived with us. Some men don't even know how to be men or fathers, they know exactly where their flies are to make more children though - I've got older and did quite well for myself and even now he finds it hard to congratulate me because it wasn't his favourite that did well. No child needs a parent that isn't really a parent, they do more damage than good!

DEADBEAT!! : 12/9/2009
BAJAN4REAL: YOU SOUND LIKE A REAL IDIOT!
WHERE DID YOU GO TO SCHOOL? AND BEFORE YOU SUBMIT YOUR COMMENT TO THE PAPER, YOU SHOULD READ WHAT YOU WROTE. YOU SURE SOUND ILLITERATE!! DEAD BEAT MOTHERS AND FATHERS ARE EVERYWHERE! THE CUSTODIAL PARENT JUST HAVE TO DO THEIR BEST, AND THEY WILL SUCCEED WITH THEIR KIDS!! THE OTHER PARENT WILL REGRET IT LATER, BELIEVE ME!
BEEN THERE.

worth less father. : 12/9/2009
listen girlfriend when i was 27 years i had 5 kids i was the talk of the town cause i had little but today thank god they are 30,28,23,20 and 19 ha ha the person that laugh last laugh best i raised them by my self today we look like sisters one is a manager the next has her own little business the next studying to b a physiotherpist one has an ordinary job and the last is studying to b a midwife dont worry sweetheart time is a great healer and that idiot bajan 4 real that calling bajan women ilitirate needs to learn to spell cause he is 99% goat and 1%rope and 4 him to b talking like that he is a complete idiot,his mother shoul have had an abortion.

: 12/9/2009
Mine left when I was four and did little to nothing for me. I am successful thanks to the mother and other great extended family members I had. We never once depended on him and it is a darn shame that this happens, but life goes on and you and yours will get through it. Just make sure they do not continue the cycle. If he gets a paycheck the amount should be garnished before he gets his pay. This happens in the states and if they are behind they cannot get a passport and sometimes the income tax return is garnished as well.

deadbeat dad : 12/9/2009
Dear Lady,Dont you worry what goes around comes around try your best with your kids they will not be small forever some day they willgrow up and have good jobs then he'll say my kids but never say bad things to them about him may god bless you .

Help this woman! : 12/9/2009
I would like to send this woman something to help too? Btu best thing i can do from her is tell her to borrow form the National library and to read some personal development books for her children to increase thier chances of ghetting out the ghetto mentality cycle.

deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/9/2009
I totally agree with you on this one. I am a bajan living in new york for the past 40yrs. $20 cannot buy lunch in barbados, how can it support a child for a week? The courts should be ashame to even offer you that. Continue to fight for your children's rights

: 12/9/2009
Man and women such as this man roam the planet having children here, there and everywhere and then don't wish to accept the responsibility that it entails, however, what are this ladies options but to get on and do right by her children alone and with pride. I can't imagine he turned out to be a joker overnight, surely there was evidence of his ways and manner prior to having child number three, anyway, young lady, hold your head up and do your thing, leave him to god, your children see whats going on, it may be hard and stressful now, but I'm sure you will be rewarded with the love and respect of your children -always.

: 12/9/2009
Bajan4Real. I quote "Most women in Barbados are illitrates ...." Just asking - does this include you. Don't make me laugh. I rest my case.

God Will Provide! : 12/9/2009
Forget about him right now, your children's welfare is #1. Get down on your knees and pray to your Heavenly Father and ask him for guidence to show you the way how to continue to raise these children without their father in their lives, but to them at the end of the day this man is still your children's father, so for right now be the best mother and father, with what little monies you receive from him make it work. Here is where you teach them the right way to treat women. Love your children with all your heart and make the neccessary sacrifices for them. They'll appreciate it one day. As for your bills and other things you have to strech that money as far as possible. ( Here is a scenerio - suppose he was dead and left nothing for you or the children what would you do). God is your Provider. Call upon Him and see the marvellous things he can do. Be well and God Bless you and your children.

: 12/9/2009
It all starts with parenting by these overarted fathers. Their mothers refused to instill moral values in them. Therefore they go out there cultivate families when they get tired they walk away. Its time that policies are set in place quite like North American countries to penalize these men. For those who are so unsympathetic I am sure you are products of such men and this womans experience is a big trigger for you. Kids do grow up and with the blessings of the creator this too will pass sister.
Bajan in Sweden

: 12/9/2009

Poor background is a diesease,most people should think of all these to come up to make good future,to start how could a woman go get pregnant from a man whom u donot know nothing about,a nusaince in the society in this case what do u expect from this person?Education is the answer.most of these women are the mother of the idiots we have in the country cuz of poor upbring,they r interested runing around men cuz they cant make living on their own, insteady if thinking of future their life seems to put to stop cuz they cant develep no more.How many children david thopmson has?

Coward : 12/9/2009

Most women in Barbados are illitrates, they dont try to build their future educationally but run around men of their type and be geting children with the mentality that men are ever green that they must support they dont care what ever he does. Go to school tht is my advice.and my advice to Barbados government we shouldnt let women who ignore education to feel the law can help them with mess around cuz they contribute nothing to the societies but nusaince at same time bring up messed children,we have smart women here these are women who know theri right from the begining and such women we have respect to all, how can a woman who donot know her right to be anything good but dream becuz of gov dont look in these,soon non national we take out women and men cuz our un educated women are coward

Re:"What about you" : 12/8/2009
What unkind words! This lady did choose him to procreate. However,I am quite sure that she did not envision this. The fact is that it is his responsibility to take care of his kids. Many parents looks to see what each other is doing but forget to look at the children.I am appalled that you would be so cruel...are you even human?!?!?!
Will be praying for you lady and wishing I could get your information.

DEAD BEAT DAD : 12/8/2009
As a mother you do the best that you can for those son's that God bless u with.Because one good day that sperm doner will want those same son's. Also remember God don't sleep......KEEP THE FAITH.

: 12/8/2009
It seems to me that you do not understand that your sons DO have a Father and the only one they really need.
That Father has Blessed you with three talented sons and has given you the ability to work and the strength you need to do the task of raising them.
Pray to that Father, Have Faith and give all the love and make all the sacrifices for your sons. There is no better way to raise them.
Schools clothes would come...why worry today about school clothes for September next year? by doing so you have already made the decision that you would not have.....you are not allowing yourself to get..
Stop the mourning and the complaining....make the necessary sacrifices and hold on to the REAL FATHER for all your needs.
Trust me.....Our Father in Heaven is alive and he cares and provides for us...if we just let him.

PUBLISH DUH NAMES : 12/8/2009
Nation News why don't you send your best investigative reporters on a run to find these low-life fathers and publish their names? I think society has a right to know who these bastards are. There seems to be much sympathy towards this irresponsible man, who probably delights in telling people he has three children. We want names, pictures, where they work and of course how many children they have and when last they supported them. Society needs to apply pressure to these bastards because it is the society that often ends up taking care of their children.

Deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/8/2009
I must say that not all fathers are consider dead beats DAD, some women are also dead Beats parents, so please stop saying that 90% is dead beats DAD, also one must understand that a man cannot have kids and if women don't want them, there are ways to protect themselves against getting pregnant.also true the kids or children don't ask to come into the world , so it is only the right thing to do and take care of your responsibility, and be a real man and Father. also I would like to send a lending hand to the parent/mother of these three(3) children to contact me, because I have plenty of new cloth that I think might be able to give to the boys, I have three boys, and have plenty of boys stuff around.I can be contact at this e-mail address.
www.michaeledwards46@gmail.com

What about you ? : 12/7/2009
"He needs to get a job in construction so that he could support his sons and not a job at a security firm."
First, hold up your hand and admit that YOU chose him for procreation. Now you are reaping what you sowed. I bet he is the same as the day you met him. Remember the other guy who was checking you that you in had the time of day for ? What type of father is he now ? You said your ex needs to get a job in construction rather than security ? What about you ? On your behind for 22 years and still a weekly paid govt worker ? (ie among the lowest wages in Bim) Why should he have ambition all of a sudden when you have none ? Stop trying to keep up with the Jones's. Let your sons go and play cricket in the road or pon a pasture. As for you going and owing money on cricket helmets ? Another decision that you need to hold up your hand for. Clearly your priorities are perverted.You best be glad you get awarded the $60 weekly. Lucky for you I was not the one making the decision or I would have fined YOU for your stupidity.

Slave Culture - breed like dogs, leave the pups for massa to feed! : 12/7/2009
99.5% of fathers do not do this in other societies..go to the jungle and you see fathers with childen slign on thier back adn working with the mother to feed family..this is black slave culture, PERIOD! IT comes from illiteracy, Authorities need a publicity campaign to countere this plague in society, my cousin's child father has about 5 children and refuses to support child properly, so it becomes burden on my family to help her now, i am an entrepeneur but i have to divert my reources to help somone else'e mess, hence I have learnt this behavior slave cycle effects us all. I bet the same man geos and have 3 more children from other women.. In china he would probabkly get imprisoned.

CHILDREN NEED EMOTIONAL AND FINANCIALSUPPORT…. : 12/7/2009
We don’t know what your X-husband’s income is and therefore have no basis for questioning the amount of child support ordered by the court. The fact that your X-husband is not paying could means that he cannot afford to pay and not necessarily that he doesn’t want to pay.. Yet the fact remains that your X-husband needs to shoulder his responsibilities as a father and support his children. I am appalled that the same court that ordered the child support is not enforcing the order. How is it that our court system is allowing deadbeat fathers to get away with such indifference.. The courts can demand that he pays or be jailed. Bearing the burden as the only parent to your children can be quite a task as you have alluded to so you should seek some help through welfare. Most folks see welfare as a shameful handout…as a shot to their pride.. but it is not..it is there for anyone truly in need. Boys especially need their fathers…not just for financial support, but more importantly for moral support, and so I hope that your husband will have a change of heart and will be there for his sons guiding them into becoming very caring and responsible young men.

dEAD BEAT DADS OR NOT : 12/7/2009
Sweet heart blaming does not help any situation one way or another . Go to work and try to raise your children as best as you can .They are yours too . They will not stay small . Please do not go on about the sacrifices you made every mother does that . Be glad you could be there for them .Please stop blaming his mother because she probably had a man who was his father and not supporting him also . The same way he is doing .This is a cycle . Please stop blaming othe women and those from the other islands .No one held him and forced him to live with them or to have sex with them .The choice was his . If you know that you cannot keep up with the club fees you will have to stop .As hard as it may be ,explain to them .Speak to the coaches of their particular sport at their school and see what you can get work out . Some women are to blame too .I am not saying you but some women wait hand and foot on these men for child maintainace .Some demand what they think they must get .Some get the money and deny the man the visitation rights .The man becomes the new ATM cards . You punch in your request forcefully and the money comes . Some get the money spend it on themselves and then put the same children the men cannot carry out for an ice cream on the phone to say that they are hungry .This is real .This happens daily . So in truth and in fact they are supporting twice .All along these women have other men other children and sometimes their fathers are not supporting and not working either .Hence one fools money is supporting 6.Mother and her live in man included .Jailing means nothing because some men has made up their minds to go all the time and not pay .What women need to do is band togather and not go on a man hunt but to try to better themselves educationally , mentally and in all ways .When we stop depending on men for security and other things we would be better .Let them come up to our standards not we bow down .

PS : 12/7/2009
If they have cricket helmets form young they will NEVER amount to be good batsmen so forget that dream.

Deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/7/2009
All men are not like this but it does seem to me that some women like the more 'popular' men. So if they got 'around' before marriage what does one expect when married or in a 'serious' realtionship. It makes no sense running this man down just work on yourself and your children. The job he has maybe all the state thinks he can afford is the $60.00. To all the women out there make sure you can support yourself before you get into a serious relationship with anyman, he can easily walk away. Even if the support money comes nothing says he has to be around you and the children. It amazes me that this situation is repeated time in and time out and then we complain. Wish you luck and put Jesus first not man.

Deadbeat dad leaves children to suffer. : 12/6/2009
I think it is about time that bajan fathers own up to their responsibilities. It is a shame that in 2009, a High Court would award such a meagre amount for three children. If he does not pay up ,he should be sent to jail.
Bajan in Canada

Deadbeat Dad : 12/6/2009
The sad thing is that their Dad will be right there when these children succeed in their lives. It gets sadder because you will have to stand right there and smile during photo shoots when these children have to pose with their parents and saddest because these children will always have and want their Dad at some point in their lives. Dad, through his attitude, is the father of and not a parent to these boys.
I hope that these boys, under your parental guidance, will learn how to be good parents by doing the things to their own children what is missing now in their lives.

Is this Justice? : 12/6/2009
The entire Justice system in Barbados
needs to be look at.I don`t know if the
laws need to be updated or they are no
legislation for the judges and magistrates
to follow.If this man has a job the
judge could have the money deducted from
his salary and when he filed his taxes
he would not get a penny as long as he
owes child support.People here commits
some of the worse crimes and when found guilty on all counts the sentences run
concurrently and in the first place the
sentences are very lenient.I don`t know
what work this man does but $60 for 3 children is rediculous.A child needs
about $20 a day for lunch money.You
should have mention the judge`s name,
then they may not print your article
because freedom of speech is not protected
here. Stay strong and keep the faith,
whatever problems you two had its nothing
to do with the children.

: 12/6/2009
Your children will continue to be your blessings, its probabaly highly unlikely that your ex and the father of your children will do the right thing, but you keep doing what your doing, your children will always have love and respect for you, their father on the other hand is worthy of nothing more than the contempt he will recieve when the boys are older, and that will be of his own making and his loss. Good luck.

Deadbeat Dads : 12/6/2009
This seems to be the anthem of lots of men, not only in Barbados, but world wide. Been there done that. Keep the faith, and do not bad talk the father to the children, they will see and understand. Keep a roof over their head and keep them medically fit, and well fed and educated. Once you have these ideals in front of you all will be well. The father will not be young for ever. When he needs those children, they may not be there for him. Good luck. Ottawa- Bajan.

I made it through the rain, so can you. : 12/6/2009
I was in your shoes also with one child, whose fater had means and a business I had helped him to develop. We separated because several gold diggers discovered a sweet boy. He decided not to support our child unless we reunited, and for three years he didn't support. I can't blame the Court because when I went there, he pleaded with me.Thinking I was above that, not wanted my child caught up in the mess and thinking he keep his promise, I withdrew. I got not a cent more. I decided to go it alone. It was hard. I tried on my own, and along the way got into a relationship with one that turned out to be an idiot and a criminal. I finally pulled my tail from between my legs and continued on alone, begged, borrowed, got taked about,sometimes insulted when I couldn't repay as promised, didn't steal or prostitute,but with more sacrifices and pray, I got my child through university abroad. Keep trying and keep on praying and stay close to the hearts of your children. Teach them good values and selfworth.Before long your children will be adults. Not all problematic children are products of these kinds of relationships and some who were raised without parents or love were still well rounded people. It's about having a mind.

deadbeat : 12/6/2009
I know it is diffcult in these time ,but you have to forget about him and move on .Sometimes things happen for God to get out attention . He will pay,if not in cash ,in his ways . my mum had 6 children in the 1980's and no support from our dads, but we all forgive them as we grow to become adults ,having our own business and my mum living in a better environment that him .
He was sick 5 months ago, and I arrived on the island and give him money ,while the olders brother battle taking him to QEH ,but we put his behaviour not supporting us aside , The stone the builder refuse ,the same stone he has to use . Dont put the children against him . Just ask God to help you release him, and you will be release from your struggle . Finding a church and trusted friends is what you want. PRAY ANSWER PROBLEMS ,PROBLEMS DONT ANSWER PRAY . To all bajan parents now is the time to come together ,and not cry down other parents.
These children will not suffer , keep the faith HOSEA 4:6

Deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/6/2009
Raise your children the best way you can yes indead, but let me offer you more advice. Take the man back to court - show the court your total in-goings and out-goings. Let the court see in black and white your short-fall. As an ex-wife you have more power for the rights of your children. Don't be scared of the authorities, don't listen to loosers and put him back in court. Your sons will be well proud when they hear how you brave enough to take the courts decisions back into court and their father tight fisted hand back into court. If your x husband has spare land - see if you can force him to sell it for HIS children. God bless and take care

: 12/6/2009
whatever the reason for the break-up there is no reason why a mother or father should not support their children. It is a priority. No woman can prevent a man from supporting his children, if he really wants to, so don't blame the women. The law should be more active. Child maintenace should be deducted from their pay at source. He should never be allowed to owe maintenace since 2000. What is going on. With regards to the amount assigned I presume this is based on the amount of money he is paid weekly. Yes I know that children do not come cheap but to expect $100 per week per child plus expenses is a little bit excessive in my opinion. If he is not paying $20.00 per week do you think you have the slightest chance of getting $100 per week per child. I don't think so. This is one of the issues that the Governmet should try to address since it has a direct impact on the children's well being ie mothers having to work excessive hours which leads to child neglect and all the other ills associated with it. This has to be a priority for the Government. Mum continue to do your best one day he will want the assistance of these same children. When they ignore him I hope he would not be complaining about the way they are treating him. Good luck.

: 12/6/2009
What makes this story horrific is not the cold hearted bastard you had for a husband but the system of justice which said...' $20.00 per child is adequate.' The entire judicial process of Barbados is frot with arbitration and personal bias. That is why justice in Barbados has received much bad criticism in recent years because it seems more injustice is meted than justice served.

Deadbeat dad : 12/6/2009
How he lawyer coud say go to the welfare he aint got no children and no heart he shoud tell the man try and support his children them boys gine get big and he gine want them anyway you be there and be strong for them as for your late manager at least he has a heart the good lord will bless him the children father aint got no heart either

I Feel Your Pain : 12/5/2009
My mother was in the same boat when she separated from my father. He did not support us for the first five years or so when my mother left him. Then one day, he showed up with ground provisions and a few dollars trying to make up for lost time. We were ecstatic to see him at that time. Of course, we didn't know any better. Then he bagan to leave $50 per month for all three of us at the welfare department. There were several times when this money never showed up. Our little hearts used to be broken when my mom returned empty-handed. The summer vacation was the worse time because he always claimed that he could not leave any child support because he was sick/umemployed. Therefore, my mother had to find food, school clothing and supplies for the three of us. Thank God my aunt was there to assist. My brothers and I were deprived of a lot because of my father's absence and delinquency when it came to child support. However, God was good to us. I now hold a Master of Science degree from a North American university and my brothers are making it also. I now hate my father for what he did to my mother and us. My kids and I visit Barbados every year and we never visit him an I have no reservations about my decision to stay away from him. He is not worth my gas and effort!!! Men need to understand that kids grow up eventually no matter how they are treated. So my dear, keep holding on and raise those boys to be good citizens. You will reap the the long-term benefits.

deadbeat leaves children to suffer : 12/5/2009
99.5% of fathers do this. His upbringing has nothing to do with his responsibilities. take care of your children the best you can and in the end, if they respect your efforts and sacrifices, it will pay off in the end. Their father will regret this later in life, when they excell at whatever career they chose. I know, being father and mother to my sons has been very difficult, but today, I am a proud mother. so hold on and do your best, the children will appreciate your sacrifices.

: 12/5/2009
Unfortunately there are lots of people who behave like your exhusband but you will survive I was in your shoes once. But as the saying goes children do not stay small all of the time they become adults

Deadbeat leaves children : 12/5/2009
This is not a reasonable amount of money to support a child. A child needs clothes constantly as they are always growing, 3 boys must eat the house down because boys seem to have a bigger appetite than girls and everything costs money. $20 is insufficient per child and this really needs to be looked into. If I was an absent mother and had to pay $60 for child maintenance per month, I would be very, very lucky. Children are a very big expense and more so nowadays as the cost of living is extremely high.

Dead beat father : 12/5/2009
Look after your children as best you could,say nothing to them about what their father is doing and in a few years once you have brought them up correctly you will see the results.He will want them but they will not want him. I know i was in the same boat.

deadbeat father : 12/5/2009
It's sad to think in this time that $20.00 can support a grown child for a day much more a week, But don't blame other women they don't send and called the men. These actions are just how some men are.