Next Week Question : 12/12/2009
It will be much beeter to wait until you both know each other and, respect that marriage should come before sleeping together.
that would make you wedding night more exciting and getting to know the physical part of each other. But remember that the Lord wants us to have a good relationship with each other.

Next week question : 12/11/2009
It is better for men/women to chart a course in building a friendship/relationship that will make it enjoyable when they become sexually active, this will take some time if people really care about each other. It will be hard to put a time span on this but when it happen you sure to know it was the right time and both people will feel good about they actions. By then it will be satisfying'

how long should you date : 12/10/2009
I say you should at least wait three months. That should give you sometime to know the person without jumping into bed with them as soon as you meet them.

What Respect Means : 12/10/2009
Mr. Bridgeman, I never said that I was under the impression that the man was waiting on me, I would have been an idiot. It has nothing to do with being gullible or not. The bottom line is that he was the totally wrong choice even though I made him wait, that is my point. You don't know all the facts so you cannot make a judgement as to if it would have lasted. Most men want to have a nice untouched woman at marriage, but in between that time they are busy hitting on anything in a skirt that crosses their paths. It is what happens after you get married that should count. You also have to ask if we got married and if we are still together. I did not ask for any advice, I fight my own battles and do that extremely well. You also do not know my context of respect. You and I both are aware that respect covers a whole lot more than what most people believe. He would tell anyone that I was the best thing that ever happened to him in his life, and we are not speaking about sex. He has never abused me physically or verbally or has ever told anyone a bad word about me after twenty odd years. Infact most people call me his queen. Total respect in a relationship is mental, verbal as well as physical so you draw you own conclusion of how he disrespected me.

Be Virtuous Women : 12/10/2009
In this 21st century we have broken all the rules and barriers as far as SEX. If we as women and men want a pure individual as a life partner we must ask God for that person. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing". To the young women who are still virgins out there,and those who are not its not to late for you-remember this, that your body is a Temple of God - you must thrive to be a Proverbs 31 women. Be a Virtuous women and God would send you an equal partner. Put God first in all things even in our sex life. Let a man love your mind first, your character and make him respect you, if he doesn't do these things, then let him step.
Sex is only an act, but having someone to love and respect you is forever.

: 12/10/2009
I am sticking to what i said same day,If you meet some one and wait 6 months that person is HIV positive,you use a condom a few times after you started and then stop, do you think that you will not catch the virus.The big joke is that none of you will use condom for the rest of your lives so all of us are at risk.

: 12/9/2009
Sex addict, how can you say the same day given the the STD's that are out there, some of which are killers, get real in this day and age, people need to be head smart, if the sex is worth having, its worth waiting for.

: 12/8/2009
What a question? How do you apply time constaints to emotions like love and passion. How do you control lust? What is the solution for adrenelin that is pumping and an 'appetite' causing you to salivate? Making a decision as to the right time to engage in sexual activity would obviously differ if it'a a completely new date or a long time casual friend, perhaps from school, church work or the neighbourhood for whom you have developed special feelings. There is more feeling of trust for the long time acquaintence which makes it easier to engage in sex sooner. Sometimes that turns out to be a big mistake. I think it's a chance thing.
Retired.

How long? : 12/8/2009
Well according to the Bible until marriage. However, if you are gonna have sex I would say that you first need to get to know the person and ensure that you are booth compatible to avoid any regrets or hurt feelings afterwards. For some this may take a day, a month, 6 months depending on their values, morals and what they want from the relationship.
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How Long : 12/7/2009
I think 3-6mths is enough time. Take that time to be build a frienship first, get to know the person, ask questions. You can learn alot about someone if you just take the time to talk, and talk for hour on the phone before going out together. Get to know their habits, good and bad and make sure both of you are compatible. After all that, when the time is right you would know . Any man eager to jump in bed is not going to stick around for too long but you will able to walk with pride knowing you were not one of his statistics.

IT DOES MATTER : 12/7/2009
Polter, why would a genuine prince treat his princess like trash? If he mistreated you, this means that he wasn't really a prince. He was playing the waiting game all along. Perhaps too, he was being intimate with other women while waiting to have his turn with you. Some women are so gullible! BTW, you don't figure somebody will respect you. You respect yourself, other people and the respect comes right back. You don't have to demand or ask for it. I believe if a woman makes her fiance wait until after marriage before becoming intimate with him, the percentages are high that she won't cheat on him after they tie the knot. And the opposite is true too. If he possesses his vessel well, keeps himself clean and pure before GOD, his fiance and man, chances are he won't drift after marriage. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but I believe what I just wrote is generally true. Polter, you need to wake up and smell the Milo!

It Does Not Matter : 12/7/2009
I made my prince wait five years and he still treated me like trash. I ensured that he picked me up and returned me to my mother's house untouched after dinner and dancing, each and every time. I played it by the storybook. I figured that he should have respected me and treated me like gold; I was so wrong. I now believe that you take things as they go, how ever long you make someone wait for sex has no real value on the quality of the resulting relationship. It is who you should have sex with. Some partners should still be waiting on the "promised land".

: 12/6/2009
i think you should know the person about 3-6 months before have sex .also we need to get to know then before ,ask about then to people that know then see what kind of person there are before having sex thank you

How long to wait ? : 12/6/2009
Truth is,in today's highly active 21st Century world of technological freedoms,expressions and sexual behaviors, where reality news and T.V. tend to rule as the latest approved popular trend. The conservative wait game of generations past deems to be rather obsolete as many of today's trendy younger folks seem more so eager to experiment during their early teens and up, if not younger...? Armed with tools from sex education classes, seemingly yielding a sort of rights of passage...? Older young adults may feel a need to more so endulge as a consequence of convience regarding time, seeing that most today tend to multitask their precious time as to fit a quick fling into the mix of busy schedules as school or work would allow. Basically, though, if one excludes traditional conservative social morals, wait time becomes insignificant as most would then function from a stand point of attraction, emotion, passion and convience. Quite a loaded social question for today's 21st Century minded modern free thinking behavior.

WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE : 12/6/2009
Until you're married! Call it old-fashioned, not practical, out of touch with reality and the like, but it's still the best way because it's GOD's way. Many don't realize that being intimate with someone outside the bonds of marriage usually involves considerable emotional investment, especially on the woman's part. Whenever there's separation following intimacy for whatever reason, more often than not, the woman winds up with more hurt feelings than the man. This is because GOD has made the man to think/operate logically and the woman, emotionally. One is not better than the other,just different. Furthermore, when a couple refrains from becoming intimate prior to marriage, there's no need to worry about contracting the AIDS virus, STDs, pregnancy and the like. Also, the Holy Bible calls sex out of wedlock, fornication, which according to GOD's standards, is a sin. A person not believing this to be true does not change the veracity of it. The truth is the truth is the truth, no matter who disbelieves. GOD's way is always the best way.

Bang Now, Pay Later : 12/6/2009
I've learnt my lesson. I felt like a champion when a girl ,some years ago,told me that she does not believe in sex the first time,and I got her to change her mind.But somehow I did not feel so elated some days after when the same lady passed me a message from the local Health Clinic.

How long before sex : 12/6/2009
I don't think there is a time limit really since some people may know each other for years but not get romantic unless circumstances allow. I know people who had sex on their first date and had long successful marriages and others who waited and waited but then split up soon after the deed was done. There are no rules but the motives of the two individuals involved is most important. If the sex results from a mutual need to express love then it does not matter. If the need for sex is based on lust then it does not matter how long the wait is, the result will always be the same. I know some will say "Thou shalt not have sex before marriage" but some christians run up the alter to avoid sinning (sex before marriage) then end up divorced because they had nothing in common except a healthy and natural lust for each other!!

Bage In Toronto : 12/6/2009
How long? from reading your article you haven't had for a very long time. I hope that Musty Santa passes by.
Good luck!

: 12/5/2009

I think the same day,there are love at first sight so why not sex on the first day

: 12/5/2009
This depends on how the relationship is going between the two people, there is no time limit but people should find out whether they are compatible before intimacy because this is where some women and men could get used. Sex is important in a relationship but it shouldn't come before meaningful conversation and finding out whether your potential is ready to settle down and is really committed, can compromise and can be independent without the other half whether it be male or female.

how long : 12/5/2009
it varies with different people, some think one minute is good enough, but if i see the relationship is going to be a long term one, i think 6month is good enough, that is how long it took me with my lover after it got serious. we were friends for 14 years with just nothing a social contact, no romance or anything like that, but the he started to ask for the poke and i got mad, i told him that if that is going to happen, it will happen in due time, and when the moment is right, it will just climax, i did not hear from him for 3 days after that talk, then he showed up and told me i was right, that none of the girls he dated did that, it was right away, i told him that was the girls he dated, now he is dating a woman, there is a big difference, girls are sitll in the learning stage, woman are mature and know what they are doing, they are experience, so there we go, it has been 5 years now, and we are still kicking. i believe that if you want to keep the relationship going for a while giving up de poke too soon will turn him off and he will look someplace else, he would think that its too easy and that is how you operate. the longer you hold out, the better the chances of a lasting relationship provided that you know how to work the dog. it does not make sense that you hold on to the poke and um like a gully not only big but watery, rememba i did not say slippery, there is a difference between waterey and slippery. now you cant serve the same ting every day, yuh haff know how fuh stir yuh coocoo, keep the lumps out, lots of wining and grinding mek de head turn, folks yuh haffa know what to da in de bed and in de kitchen fuh keep wunna people deh. overall, i think 6 months is good. after 1 month de romance starts, a little kissing and a little feeling and den a little touching de bubbies, the yuh could play wid de poke and keep going from dey to yuh get to the promise land.
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