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Adults must set an example

rhondathompson, [email protected]

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Dear Christine,
I AM WRITING this letter to you with a heavy heart because of an incident that happened on the Wanstead Transport Board bus recently.
An experienced woman cursed an Ellerslie Secondary school girl. It seems that somebody mashed this woman’s foot. She got vex and turned on the girl saying, “you mashed my foot too”.
The girl was shocked to hear that she had stepped on the woman’s foot and said she didn’t have to behave like that. The woman told the girl in the rawest way, where to kiss.
It was not called for because the girl, who could have been about 14 or 15 years of age, was not rude to her.
My question is, how can some of us adults cry down the youth when we are not setting proper examples? – S.C.
Dear S.C.,
When the woman cursed the child what did you or any of the other adults aboard the bus say? Did any of you condemn this woman’s actions and chastise her for her abusive behaviour towards the child?
I’m not trying to put you on the spot as I’m grateful you felt so strongly about this incident that you were moved to write us on it.
Rather, I’m trying to encourage you and other readers to recognise that when things like this happen, you should raise your voices in disapproval. If more Barbadians did this, this would go a long way in stemming this type of anti-social behaviour.
Many of us have taken the attitude that we do not want to get involved in anything because we fear reprisals, yet we want others to act on these things.
The reality though is that if none of us stand up and speak out, then people who do such acts would feel this behaviour is all right.
That said, it is shameful when adults behave in this way to children. By their actions, they tell young people that it is okay to behave in that manner. No wonder we see all over this country young people behaving in the most unseemly manner.
I urge you and all my readers not to sit silently by and allow such behaviour to take place without raising your voices in dissent.
There is an old poem that is quite apt here. It goes: 
“This is a little story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.
“There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.
“Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.
“Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody’s job.
“Everybody thought that Anybody could do it, but Nobody realised that Everybody wouldn’t do it.
“It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.”
Enough said.
– Christine