I CONFESS – Let God be your guide
This is a response to the I Confess article I Want My Own Man in the SATURDAY SUN on November 20, 2010.
WHEN?I?READ your article, some of the things you mentioned reminded me so much of myself. I also wonder when I will settle down and start living the life I think I should be living. That is, married, successful, with two or three children.
Like you, I have so many questions about the way things are in my life, and questions about God as well. But the only real answers you can find are through a relationship with Him and through His Word, which He left for you to cultivate in your life.
Here is my prescription for us and all women:
1) Get to know God. He has the qualities you mentioned that you’d like in your mate! He loved you even before you came into existence. You can share your day with Him, no matter where you are or what time of day it is.
You can tell him any and everything. He even knows your thoughts before they come into your head.
He believes in you. After all, He made you. Do you think He doesn’t know what He’s put in you? He encourages you every single day. When you succeed, He revels in your success; when you fail, He’s there to comfort you. His love for you is greater than you can ever imagine – seek to discover it!
God knows all the things you want but all the things you mentioned are temporal and can fail you at any time. What He wants you to do is channel that tenacity you have for such into seeking after Him, the real and true reward. – Luke 12:22-32
2) As you get to know Him your outlook on life will change. Life is much more than just about getting married. As a Christian you have much to offer this world and much work to do in His name!
As a believer of Christ Jesus you have been given at least one gift. If you do not know it as yet, ask God to show you so that you can get on with the only work that really matters in this life.
And even if a Christian does not know what his or her gift is as yet and his or her purpose here on earth, at least they should know that they are to spread the Gospel as commanded by Jesus. – Matthew 28:16-20
3) “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your heart and mind through Christ.” – Philippians 4:6-7
Calm your heart and let Him give you that joy and peace you seek.
4) Be wary of your adversary Satan. He knows what you want as much as God has your best interest at heart. But you can combat him. When the host of unwanted advances come your way, take up the whole armour of God that you will be able to stand against the wiles of Satan who will bring many convincing situations to you but you must believe in the truth of God.
5) In response to your wanting to give up and believe only in the things you can see, as a Christian you must exercise faith, and put it to work. According to Hebrews 11:1-2, faith is the substance of things hoped for. Substance is the most important or essential part of something. It is something out of which something else comes.
Faith is the evidence of things not seen. The things which you see are born out of faith. Further in verse 6, it states that he who comes to God, must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
You mentioned living your life in accordance with what you believe to be God’s purpose for you and little of what you pray to achieve. But does what you believe is His purpose for you align with His Word?
You must cultivate your relationship with Him. You hardly get to know someone by keeping your distance. And as for the second part of your statement, God does the work in your life. As mentioned earlier, be patient. I have seen God work out things on my behalf that I would have never thought in a million years!
I pray that we would follow the daily dosage of this prescription and allow God to comfort and guide us.
– Your sister in Christ Jesus