DEAR CHRISTINE: I’m just longing for a better life
I have been living with my boyfriend for the past 18 years and we have a 15-year-old daughter.
My family is of the opinion that we should get married, but even though we have lived together for so many years, I still do not see myself marrying him. We get along well, but many times there are financial challenges.
Unless I take the initiative to get things done, he makes no decisions about anything.
My salary is smaller than his, and even though this is the case, he expects me to pay the rent, which when I do, leaves me with just $200 to make it from one month to the next.
Christine, I am tired of the life I live, but I feel as though I am in a bind.
I have applied to the National Housing Corporation for a house, as my rent is too high.
Sometimes we hardly have food in the house and I have to depend on my family for assistance. The bills often pile up and there are times when we are behind in rent.
This is no life to live. I want better for myself, and I pray that God would come through for me.
– HOPING FOR THE LIGHT TO SHINE
Dear Hoping For The Light To Shine,
Your situation seems desperate and the only ray of hope I see for you is to get assistance from the National Housing Corporation (NHC). With less rent to pay, you’ll be better able to make ends meet.
The decision not to marry the father of your child is your decision, but if you are not keen on getting married to him, you must still determine if it is wise to continue living together, or having an intimate relationship.
I get the impression that both of you are going through financial difficulties and if this was not the case, things could be different between you two.
Try talking to him, and see if he feels the same as you do about marriage.
When you have this conversation you’ll be in a better position to take the necessary steps forward.
You should also make contact with the NHC again and let authorities there update you on your application.
Please, don’t lose heart.