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DEAR CHRISTINE – My lover’s wife says he has HIV

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DEAR CHRISTINE – My lover’s wife says he has HIV

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Dear Christine,
I am writing to you with a heavy heart, and a worrisome spirit. I simply do not know what to do.
I am not a citizen of Barbados, but I know that you will give me the best answer, which I hope to read at your website.
I have been having an affair with a married man for the past two years, and everything was going pretty okay during that time.
However, I received a letter from his wife just about two weeks ago.
Christine, I never knew she was aware of the relationship. I felt we were discreet about it. Christine, she told me in her letter that she did not want her husband anymore because “he has a deadly sexually transmitted disease”.  She never came right out and said it was HIV/AIDS, but I believe that that is what she means.
I have not told my lover about the letter, but I asked him if he ever felt the need to have an AIDS test.
He told me “it is not necessary”, as he has been very careful over the years.
Christine, we have never used a condom during the past two years, and I do not know what to do.
Do you think that his wife has written the letter to maybe get back at me? I know that women can do some really awful things like that.
I am going out of my mind about what to do.
What I do know is that since the letter I refuse to be intimate with him. Do you think I should tell him about the letter? What is your advice?
– MJ
Dear MJ,
You made the wrong move when you decided to have sex with another woman’s husband. So, let’s admit that you were wrong.
He was too! 
While our feelings can play havoc with our body at times, to have unprotected sex, was not the wisest thing to do.
Your worries and concerns will only cease when you take it upon yourself to have an HIV/AIDS test. From where I am sitting that’s the best thing you can do for yourself. 
If the test proves positive you should leave this man alone.
If it proves negative, you should do the same thing.
In short, I think it is time you chart a whole new course for yourself – one way or the other.
The wife may be telling the truth or she may be trying to make things difficult for you, but this is not the time to be concerned about that.
Think about your health, have that test, and get out of that relationship right away.