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Would you marry your partner again?

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Would you marry your partner again?

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Marriage has been compared to a crap shoot, a roll of the dice, but my favourite saying compares it to a box of chocolates because you never know what you’re going to get – Forrest Gump said that about life, but it also applies to marriage.
When you take that trek down the aisle, you never quite know how, or even if, things will work out. I realized this a few years back when my roommate from college called complaining six months into her marriage, wondering if she’d made the right decision. She said to me: “You know, I think I only thought about the wedding day, I didn’t think about all the subsequent days to follow.”
It’s what happens during those subsequent days and years that can make or break you.  Last year when we all got together, a girlfriend of mine posed the question, “If you knew then what you know now, would you marry your partner?” It left us all a little stumped.
She was going through a rough time with her husband, so naturally she was the first to sound out a resounding “No!” (though she’s still married to him) – but none of us gave her an answer right away. I suppose we all were in shock because we’d never thought about it.
So when I broached the subject with a co-worker, he told me that he had actually married his wife again after having divorced her for a short period. I was totally floored, because I had never met anyone who had done that.
He was candid enough to admit that the demise of his marriage occurred based mostly on his actions, and it took his wife not being around and a time in the wilderness to realize he’d made the biggest mistake of his life. Luckily for him, love was still there and the rest is history.
But during that conversation, he said something that moved me. He said that marriage was a journey and the memories and trials, the good times and bad all add to its enrichment. That and building a family and leaving a legacy for his children, and he didn’t want to walk away from that.
While the question may leave many people stumped, I suppose the key is to look at the impact marriage has made on your life, your character and overall development. Then and only then will you have your answer.
We asked our Facebook readers, “If you had known then what you know now, would you still have married your partner? Here’s what some of them had to say.
Patricia Mullin-Payne: I would marry mine over again. Yes, all marriages have problems; mine made my marriage stronger. God created marriage and the devil don’t like it – we who are Christians have to pray for our partners all the time and keep them under the blood of Jesus. I thank God for the problem we had because it made us realize what we have: a beautiful union blessed by our Father from above!
Regina Cumberbatch: Yes, I would. I have found the most caring and thoughtful person one could ever hope for.
Jewel Hall: Yes I would. I have been married for 13 years and they have been the most wonderful years ever.
Higman Peters: I too have found a virtuous woman and knowing what I know now, I would certainly marry her again. Marriages are not perfect but it’s what you put in, you get out.
Dominick O’Reily: In a heartbeat – when June 16 rolls around, we’ll renew our vows.
Derek Dunne: Without hesitation.
Ladivee Rencher: I sure would!
Shioma Porte: Yes indeed! I totally agree with Mr Peters as well.
Margaret Ross: Yes, I would marry my husband again. We will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary this September and have three beautiful children. Not all marriages work, but so far, it’s working for us.
Frank Gilkes: I certainly would marry my wife again. I married her five months after we met in person after a year-long online friendship, and August this year will be three years of marriage and each day I have grown to love her more and more – but most important, she has grown to love me more as well.
Janice McFadden: No. Never!!