DEAR CHRISTINE: Young women, be smart, be cautious
I have a message for all the young women out there: I’d like to tell you ladies that it’s okay to keep to yourselves. Life is not passing you by; whatever God has in store for you, you will receive.
If you have a male friend, it’s okay to say no and mean it.
However, if you feel you want to do what God intended for us to do, use your own judgment. Walk with your own protection, never let a man choose for you, and be very careful.
Be smart and be cautious. There are many diseases out there. You can be harmed in other ways as well, so be very careful in your actions.
Take your time when choosing a partner; it’s not how many dates you have. Ensure you choose the one who meets your needs.
When you are selecting a life partner, make sure he has the values you seek.
Looks are the last thing you want to consider; good looks are not everything. They do not necessarily make the man a good husband.
Raising a child or children on your own isn’t smart.
Better yet, get an education. It is very important for your self-esteem and well-being. When you are independent, no one can push you around and you can stand on your own two feet.
Most women who get pushed around are weak and are not self-sufficient. Men walk all over them and they put up with men’s stupid requests because they do not know any better. Don’t be one of those women.
There are too many sisters out there blowing in the wind, all because they didn’t use the sense God gave them. There is a story behind what I am saying to whoever will listen.
I wish someone had written this when I was much younger. Maybe it would have saved me many headaches.
Nonetheless, I have turned out well in spite of my many mistakes.
I knew what I wanted and what I would accept. So far, it has paid off for me.
I have turned down many marriage proposals because my goal was to never have children without a husband.
That explains why I have no children of my own. However, I have two boys who are just as dear to me.
I am happy and blessed, but sometimes I have to pinch myself to make sure.
I sing and dance everywhere I go, as long as there is music.
People stop me on the street, in stores and pretty much everywhere, inquiring about my happiness. I am 100 per cent comfortable with me. My self-esteem is in excellent condition and I want to share my thoughts with others.
Maybe someone could learn something from it.
Your letter seems very sincere. I simply hope that young women out there, and even older ones, heed the advice you’ve given.
There is much food for thought. Thanks for sharing it with us.