How do I stop my friend’s affair?
Greetings to you and keep up the good work.
I need your advice.
I work in an office where one of the managers is carrying on an affair with a supervisor. Both of these persons are married with children. The manager, the male, has three children, and the supervisor has a 12-year-old child with her husband.
Both of these persons are friends of mine, but more so the supervisor, as we grew up in the same neighbourhood and have been working together for the past six years. Not everyone in the office is aware of the affair as they both try to be as discreet as possible, but people have brains and can put two and two together quite easily.
I have tried to tell my friend that what she is doing is wrong. Her husband is a very nice man who would not hurt a fly. He gives her whatever she wants and each year he makes sure that she takes a trip somewhere. She does not lack for anything.
The manager has a devoted wife who takes care of the children and makes certain that he always looks his best. She pays particular care to how he dresses for the office, and he is known to brag about what a good wife he has. Pray tell me, why would they want to carry on an affair when they have such devoted spouses?
I feel caught in the middle because the supervisor’s husband and my husband attend the same gym and often spend time chatting when they are there together. It pains me to see him being taken for a ride.
I cannot seem to get through to my friend and I am wondering if there is anything I should do. What can I do, Christine? I cannot bear to see this affair being played out before my eyes day after day.
You have tried talking to this woman about what she is doing but you’ve been unsuccessful. There is nothing more you can do. You can only pray and hope she comes to her senses or that this affair dissolves on its own.
Do not meddle and stop trying to give advice. These are adults who both know that what they are doing is wrong. We can only hope their consciences will win over their present infidelity.