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DEAR CHRISTINE: Should I leave the married man?

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DEAR CHRISTINE: Should I leave  the married man?

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Dear Christine,
In 2002 I lost my husband after only six years of marriage.
When he died I was so heartbroken and I did not know what to do.
We had no children and I was hurt to the core that I did not conceive during our years together.
I decided to remain single (I was just 30 years old at the time), but eventually met a man whom I felt I could open my heart to. That was two years ago. We met while I was vacationing abroad, and as we were both from the same country, we felt that we had a lot to talk about and had a lot in common.
We began dating and everything was looking up for us, until he dropped a bombshell on me only months ago. He told me that although he was separated from his wife, they were still legally married.
I never knew he was even married.
He also said he was the father of a 12-year-old son, but not from his wife.
I was shocked and hurt by this revelation.
I wondered why he never saw it fit when we first met to lay his cards on the table. He could have been honest with me, rather than have me falling for his charm.
Since his revelation and since he has noticed my disappointment and hurt, he is proposing to legally separate from his wife, so we can be married.
Christine, while I have strong feelings for him, he has deceived me and now I think that I can expect further deceit somewhere down the road. What would you advise me to do?
– K.P.
Dear K.P.,
My advice to you is to get this man out of your life. He failed to lay his true cards on the table from day one and in my humblest opinion, cannot be trusted.
I don’t think you want your life to become complicated as a result of him. There is the issue of his wife and then a child outside of his marriage.  Don’t pick up this man’s baggage. I’m sure there is someone much better for you somewhere out there.
Let time heal any hurts then start thinking about the bright future ahead of you – minus the complications.