Dear Christine,
I am 29 years old and have been married for six years. Everything was going fine between me and my husband until a few months ago. That’s when I started to see a whole new change in him.
The truth is, he is not making love to me the way he used to. All the nice things he used to say and do to me have now all disappeared in the wind. When he does make love to me, it’s boring and never satisfying.
I have been informed that he is seeing another woman. I have asked him about it, but he never picks his teeth.
I love my husband dearly and I don’t ever want to lose him or be unfaithful to him. But I am only human and things do cross my mind. Please advise me soon, Christine. I feel as though I am going crazy.
– P.
Dear P.,
Let’s look at a few facts. First and foremost, keeping sex exciting is as much your responsibility as it is your husband’s. Â
If he is not making it exciting, then you should go all out to make sure that you do. Have you been just taking and judging your husband’s performance without trying to keep his interest?
There is a trend of thought that if husbands are being unfaithful, they would go the extra mile to satisfy their wives in bed. That he does not respond to your accusations might be that he does not appreciate them, especially if they are not true.
Your husband is still sleeping at home and as such is in physical contact with you, so give him the fullest expression of sexual capabilities.
Don’t forget also, to let him know how much you truly love, care and appreciate him, as you’ve stated in your letter.
If perchance he is having an affair, the new lovable you should make him rethink the folly of cheating, which could jeopardize his marriage.
Heap on the love!
– CHRISTINE
