Dear Christine,
I am a young man who has had his share of relationships. In fact, I often get women running me down because of my good looks and the fact that I am very friendly. Despite, all this, the one person I really care about, I cannot have. It’s a cousin of mine.
When we first met while studying at the same educational institution, I had no idea whatsoever that we were related. I felt she was nice, really quiet, friendly and extremely good-looking. I know some of the other fellows were interested in her, but I felt she would have picked me over them anytime.
We would exchange friendly greetings and small talk. However, I got the shock of my life while chatting with a cousin one day. This girl’s name came up and I was duly informed that she was also my cousin.
Christine, I love this girl and I am really sorry that she is a relative. I love her enough to want to marry her.
The thing is, she did not seem surprised when I told her we were related.Â
– P.L.
Dear P.L.,
I think you should be counting your lucky stars that you found out about these close family ties before the friendship and feelings grew any deeper.    Â
I believe that while she may have been aware of the kinship, she may also know that from her viewpoint, the relationship will never amount to anything but small talk and friendly greetings. You’ve got to get over it!
Obviously she’s not among the lot who are running you down because of your good looks and friendliness. She’s a relative. Case closed!
– CHRISTINE
