Dear Christine,
I recently started working at a company where I am being harassed day and night by another woman – sexually harassed that is.
Apparently, this woman is a lesbian and has her eyes set on me. I hope she sees this letter and gets the message.
Recently, when I was in the office my telephone rang and it was her. She told me that she wanted to get to know me better and that we should exchange telephone numbers so we could chat at night. I told her that I was not interested in knowing her any better than I did.
On another occasion she watched as I entered the ladies’ room and came inside to make small talk with me. I left. On yet another occasion, she rang me on the telephone and asked if she could talk to me outside of the office. She reasoned that once outside the office I would be more relaxed and would realize that she was not a bad person. I told her “No!”
Christine, what is it going to take to get the message across to this woman that I am not interested in having a relationship with a member of my own sex? I am disgusted when I see photos of women posing with their so-called “wives”. It is a total disgrace.
I want this woman to know that I have always been and will always be a “man lover”. I love men. That’s the way God meant it to be and that is the way it is for me. No man or woman on the face of the Earth can convince me otherwise, so they need not try.
If this woman continues to make advances, I will take her to the boss.
Christine, I know she reads your column and I hope she takes me very seriously as I am totally fed up with her.
– MLB
Dear MLB,
No one has the right to continually make sexual advances if their “intended”, regardless of the sexual orientation, has categorically said, “No! I am not interested.”
From what you’ve told me you’ve been telling this woman “No” for a while. If she insists, simply do what you have to do. You should not have to endure such sexual harassment in your workplace.
Speak up and speak out if it continues. Maybe if she has difficulty taking your “No” for an answer, she’ll be prepared to endure a personal face-off with her superiors.
– CHRISTINE
