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The Open Haversack: Sex demons?

CAROL MARTINDALE, [email protected]

The Open Haversack: Sex demons?

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Through observation and discussion with many persons, I have concluded that there must be something out there, some force that is causing some young children to engage and behave in ways that are not appropriate at their age.
Some children are displaying sexual behaviour problems. These children represent a diverse group who engage in extensive mutual sexual interaction with other children, or sexually aggressive children who are intrusive and coercive. They are preoccupied with sexual words, sexual activities and their sexual body parts.
This is not normal childhood behaviour and it is cause for great concern. Normal children engage in a wide variety of sexual exploratory behaviours but not to the extent previously highlighted.
As I tried to wrap my brain around this phenomenon which I have observed developing among some children, I am left to ask these questions: are there things called “sex demons” out there? If so, are some of our children being inhabited by them?
I am amazed to hear young boys verbalizing their sexual thoughts and emotions in derogatory ways towards girls. They are not scared to tell girls what they want to do with them, and in the lewdest language.
There have been cases reported to me where boys of primary school age tell girls they want to b** them. This anal act seems to be causing great excitement as it is becoming the buzzword on the lips of some youngsters.
Another boy just 11 years said he only would rape girls his age. Girls as young as eight and nine are going to school without underwear and exposing themselves to boys.
It might be argued that these sexual behaviours are learnt and in most cases are the result of what was seen or experienced. This could be true, for in some cases children who are sexually abused act out sexually. In other cases when they are exposed to pornographic materials via the Internet, movies, seeing adults, or in magazines, they enact what they see.
My observations have led me to believe that there might be some force propelling these young children to say and engage in these over sexual behaviours.
When cases like these are identified, counselling should be provided for these children and also their families.
Parents need to set positive examples that children can model their behaviour on. They need to develop good rapport, leaving the window for communication open so that their children can share their experiences at school and any problems they might be experiencing.
The spiritual grounding that helps reinforce the values set at home need to return. In light of the above, can we conclude that there may be sex demons or are these behaviours just a mirror image of what is happening within the society?• Rhonda A. Blackman is an educator, a National Development Scholar and former president of the Early Childhood Association of Barbados Inc. Email [email protected]