Dear Christine,
I am a 60-year-old woman who is married to a man who acts like he hates me. In public, he pretends he loves me and talks about how wonderful I am. But in private, he shakes his finger in my face and calls me the ‘B’ word.
He constantly tells me how ugly I am without make-up. I’ve tried everything to make him happy and to appreciate me. I even went on a diet and lost 20 pounds.
He quit his job a few years ago after having an affair with a woman in his office. He hasn’t even looked for another job. We haven’t slept together since I confronted him about the affair. He denied it, of course, but everybody knew it. It was humiliating. I believe he is still messing around.
While we both want to sell our house, we argue constantly about when to put it on the market. The house we want will be available in a few months. My husband wants to put our house on the market now. I think we should wait a while. He has already started collecting boxes and packing up his stuff.
Do you think he is planning to leave me?
– Worried
Dear Worried,
You seem to be dealing with many issues and your husband is not making life easy for you. Don’t lose hope. As to your question, I doubt very much he is going to leave you now, especially when you consider the years you’ve been together.
Putting the house on the market now or later makes little difference. The deciding factor will be when the actual sale takes place.
I think your husband is simply eager to move and is therefore making the necessary plans now. I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt for you to do the same.
– CHRISTINE
