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DEAR CHRISTINE: Parents disapprove of my relationship

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DEAR CHRISTINE: Parents disapprove of my relationship

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Dear Christine,
I NEVER THOUGHT I’d have to write you but here I am, doing so. I guess it’s true that one should “never say never”.
I am a 27-year-old man in love with a 33-year-old woman with a 13-year-old daughter.
The problem is my family. They don’t like the fact that my girlfriend is older than me and that she has a teen-age child. They want me to make a choice – my girlfriend or them! They will not even agree to meet
her. How can they be so prejudiced?
This woman has been nothing but good to me and I adore her daughter who sees me as “daddy” in her life. Do you think the age difference is a big deal or that I should  choose my parents over this woman I truly love?
What would you do in a case like this?
– Dave
Dear Dave,
I’ll have to go against my parents’ judgment, especially if their judgments are “cosmetic” and unfair. As it is right now, your parents are making a huge mistake by passing judgment on this woman without even meeting her.
I do not see a problem with the age difference and you should not be put under such pressure by your parents.
This woman may not be their ideal choice for a future daughter-in-law, but she could be the ideal woman for you.  
Continue in your relationship, unless you find for yourself that she is not worth your love and affection. However, take your time and do not force her on your parents.
In addition, do not make any decisions that could affect your future. In spite of what happens, respect your mother and father. Who knows, maybe in due time they will change the stand they are currently taking.