AWRIGHT DEN! My mistake
It isn’t natural for a person to willingly and publicly share their failures, shortcomings or mistakes with either family or strangers. We tend to protect and hide these negative experiences in our lives primarily due to embarrassment and a sense of controlling others’ perceptions of us.
But not when we receive test results or academic report cards that show excellent performance. We readily and willingly share that success with others. On the other hand, when we have failed, we generally do the opposite.
I don’t know many persons, if any at all, who love to mess up, fail or make mistakes, but growth and development normally come out of such failures. Mistakes are a part of life and within them are opportunities to learn and to teach others.
If you took some time to reflect on your past mistakes and trials, I am sure you would find that once you handled them well, they made you a stronger and better person. Do the memories still hurt? Maybe. Do you still feel some form of shame? Maybe. Does it feel awkward sharing the experience? Maybe. But you now have a unique opportunity to help someone who went through or may be going through or about to go through what you have overcome.
What we have failed to realize is that our experiences are not for us alone. We exist to contribute to the success and development of others. We were sold a lie that we should always keep our issues, challenges and mistakes to ourselves. How many times have you heard: “That ain’t nuhbody business” and “Keep yuh business tuh yuhself”?
Your business may not be for everybody but I believe it is for somebody. I am not asking you to publicise your experiences but please don’t miss those opportunities to help someone avoid making the same mistakes as you.
A closed book would never become a bestseller or be as interesting as an autobiography. Why is it that we love to read about other persons’ experiences, but no one can read or hear about ours? Isn’t that being selfish?
The Bible is a detailed account of personal trials, mistakes and failures and many of us turn to it for guidance, inspiration and hope. Imagine if all those biblical characters were “closed books”; imagine if The Bible contained only proverbs and parables. How often would you seek it for guidance?
Larry King Live, The View, Steve Harvey and Oprah are all popular and very influential programmes which predominantly focus on inviting persons to share their life experiences. We all love to tune in to these shows because we believe we can learn and benefit from their stories. The same way we benefit from theirs, people are waiting to benefit from ours.
I have been greeted on numerous occasions by friends and strangers who read this column and quite a few of them tell me they are inspired by my personal stories and they commend me for being so bold to share them but they would never do it. I want to encourage you to be bold and to recognize that you aren’t living for you alone. There is someone out there waiting for you to transform his or her world positively with your experiences.
Here are some motivational quotes I hope will inspire you not to see mistakes as the end of the road.
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them – Bruce Lee.
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them – John C. Maxwell.
Mistakes exist to keep you humble and build your character – Corey L. Worrell.
There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth: not going all the way and not starting – Buddha.
Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes – Oscar Wilde.
If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that doer makes mistakes – John Wooden.
Mistakes are the portals of discovery – James Joyce.
Your mistakes only become failures when you fail to learn from them and fail to share those experiences with others – Corey L. Worrell.