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Can’t take a horn

Sherie Holder-Olutayo

Can’t take a horn

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It’s becoming an all too familiar occurrence.
A relationship falls apart, the woman decides to move on emotionally and the men involved appear unable to accept the demise of their relationship.
“Men in Barbados have been socialised to believe that as long as we are doing what we’re supposed to do financially that guarantees us a berth in the relationship. Once we’re taking care of the finances and keeping a roof over their heads that guarantees that we should be safe in a relationship,” said Anderson Kellman, counselling psychologist at Network Services.
“Once that safety is compromised it becomes a significant issue of betrayal. That betrayal triggers a tremendous amount of anger and, if unchecked, has the potential to spiral out of control.”
Louie, a Barbadian man, knows all too well the painful sting of being horned by his partner.
“It brings such a deep pain inside because it combines betrayal, disappointment,” said Louie. “Drinks don’t help, eating doesn’t help, sleep doesn’t help,” you just feel numb. If you find out that the man is deemed better than you are, it is just an assault on your manhood.”