DEAR CHRISTINE: Need job to ensure family’s future
I am hoping that you and your readers will be able to help me.
I am a woman in my 30s and the mother of four children. My youngest child is three years old and my first child was as a result of a rape when I was 14 years old.
As I grew older I also kept making poor choices when it came to relationships. In fact, most of my relationships were fraught with violence and abuse. I allowed myself to be abused because somehow I believed that I deserved what was happening to me.
As time progressed, I was able to get my feet back on the ground and look after my children. That was until I lost my job earlier this year.
Christine, I have grown up considerably from the child who was abused and ill-treated and I have benefited from lots of counselling. I am now more focused than ever and am determined to reach my goals in life. I am so determined to do so that I started to complete my secondary education. Despite leaving school at 14, I now have five O’Level certificates, four of which I got back at Grade 1.
I have also embarked on my tertiary education and have done considerably well in my first semester by obtaining high grades. Until I lost my job earlier this year, I was able to support myself and my four children. Without a job, it has now become really hard for me to pay my rent, my education fees, maintain my children who do not receive assistance from their father, and pay my utility bills.
My two eldest children have high hopes for their future, but I believe in order to help them and help myself, I must complete my education. In fact, completing my education is paramount if I am to get a well-paying job. Since Government has seen it fit in its strange wisdom to increase university fees from September of this year, this will add to my dismay.
Christine, this brings me to my request for assistance. I am asking for sponsorship for my family and to get us through this harsh time, so that in the future I may in turn help someone who may be struggling the way I am now.
As a single mother, I am trying very hard to improve my circumstances. I believe God helps those who help themselves and He has brought me this far. However, I have come to a point where I need to reach out for external support as my future and that of my children are in jeopardy.
I would like to find a job; even though I know this may be difficult at this time. I am also asking you for any assistance you can offer to aid me and my family. I thank you in advance for your consideration in this matter.
– In Need of Assistance
Dear In Need of Assistance,
Throughout your letter (which I have only printed in part), I hear the cry for help for your children. I commend you for making their welfare and education a priority and commend you on this. I also commend you for not allowing your rape and abuse as a teenager to prevent you from continuing your own education.
I know your reason for writing is due to the loss of your job and so I will do all that I can to help. I have asked my assistant to look into your case and she will be contacting you.
I am also appealing to readers to lend any assistance, particularly in the area of food.
In the meantime, I encourage you to hang in there and do not give up the fight.