Should I ask him to repair my home?
I am having an affair with a married man who runs a small business in St . . . . He also has another job and gives me everything I ask him for, so financially, he is okay.
About three years ago, his wife forced him into building her a house, but the two of them are having marital problems. He told me he hardly makes love to her and that he is waiting until the business picks up before he asks her for a divorce.
Sometimes he stays over at my place until the wee hours of the morning, but my house need lots of repairs.
I understand from a good friend that this man is also involved with another woman who lives in Christ Church.
Do you think I should ask him to repair my home or buy me a better one? After all, he is the one who comes to my place.
I do not want to keep supplying him with sex and food for him to leave me out for someone else.
First let me say that given the current economic climate, you may have to wait a very long time before business picks up and a divorce becomes imminent.
I am also willing to bet that he will eventually leave you out for another. If this man is currently married and has you and another woman, he is not likely to “toss” his wife out of their home to put either of you in it.
Don’t you realise he has to tell you something to get you to go along with his demands? Do you expect him to tell you that he is in love with his wife and that she is a good woman?
Go ahead and ask him to buy you a better house or repair the one you’re in.
What happens after you’ve done that should tell you how much this man is prepared to pay for the services (food, sex) which you render.