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FAMILY FUSION: Open-heart surgery (6)

Reverend Haynesley Griffith, [email protected]

FAMILY FUSION: Open-heart surgery (6)

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For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance, and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man “unclean”  – Holy Bible (St Mark 7: 21 to 23)


MY HEART was touched when I heard a little child say that she wished that people would love each other so that we could all have peace in the world. I believe the vast majority of people everywhere would give a thumbs up to my insightful little friend. If that dream can became a reality what a wonderful world we would have today.

But there is a major stumbling block to such an actuality: the “inner heart” of mankind. Within the chambers of humanity’s “inner heart” are diseases like malice, deceit, envy and slander which, when practised, frustrate the beauty of love and peace from producing a healthier world environment. It is to those four deadly diseases that I will be giving attention today. In this series on “open-heart surgery” I previously looked at the infections of evil thoughts, sexual immorality, lewdness, theft, greed, murder and adultery, all of which are located within the “inner heart”, according to the specialist heart surgeon Jesus Christ.


One of the greatest blockages to a healthy “inner heart” is malice. It is described as a “desire to cause pain, injury, or distress to another”. I have come across many individuals over the years that seem to believe that carrying around malice in their hearts is a treasure to cherish. Often it is a case where the one for whom the individual is daily transporting this malice may not have done or said anything to generate this desire to harm them.

There was a prominent woman who developed malice towards a man who told her husband that he should not have gotten involved in a particular illegal action. It later became public knowledge that this wife created an environment to get rid of the man. Unfortunately, her revenge involved her innocent young daughter, who was unaware of her mother’s devious plans.

This mother got her revenge but her daughter had to grow up with deep emotional scars which resulted from her mother’s contaminated “inner heart”. Malice has a way of destroying even close family and friends on its path of terminating others. The only cure is “inner heart” surgery that Jesus Christ alone can successfully perform.


Wherever malice resides, deceit is not too far away. Deceit is described as “the action or practice of deceiving (misleading) someone by concealing or misrepresenting the truth.” The evidence of the sickness of deception is felt at every level of society, where truth is told but not “the whole truth and nothing but the truth”.

The aim of the deceiver is often to make him/herself look good or to create ill will toward his/her perceived enemy. Allowing deception to breed in the heart where it reaches a chronic stage can cause an individual to be so distant from the truth that he/she may see it as a threat to his/her survival.

I met a man who became such a pathological deceiver that when confronted with clear evidence of his deception he was still prepared to wriggle his way out by using more lies. Deceit is a killer of conscience and a destroyer of integrity. Only the master surgeon can rid the “inner heart” of the scourge of its pernicious habit.


Envy is defined as a “painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage”. It is a noxious fluid that leaks from the “inner heart” and cripples the whole life from becoming secure and successful.

There are too many people with this crippling disease who have difficulty in developing their God-given potential but take pleasure in enviously wishing that they had what somebody possessed. These envious individuals become whiners and not winners; haters and not helpers; critical and not complimentary; peevish and not peaceful. There is one cure. Open “inner heart” surgery will correct the obnoxious behavior of envy and produce a winsome, wonderful spirit.


Some call it character assassination; others call it defamation, scandal, smear, even backstabbing. Slander is defined as “a false spoken statement about someone that damages their reputation, or the making of such a statement”. Whatever expression used, slander is a rancid imperfection located within the “inner heart”. I have had consultations with individuals whose personal and family lives suffered because of slanderous comments made by other people. This inherent “inner heart” disease operates within the workplace, families, religious groups, parliamentarians, the legal fraternity and the like. In order to avoid “inner heart” failure, especially within individuals who seem to take delight in exercising the malaise of slander, “inner heart” surgery may become necessary.

Surgically cleaning up the “inner heart” of malice, deceit, envy and slander, which are all closely related to each other, demands a specialist surgeon. Many have tried on their own but with no success.

I recall a man whose major abusive childhood experiences were like the fuel that gave rise to his displaying all four of the above characteristics. His social skills, work ethics, educational deficits and emotional paralysis left much to be desired. He found it very difficult, if not impossible, to be freed from such inner heart issues. He said that he was amazed how he was able to have a cleaner outlook of people after his “inner heart surgery”.

He spoke of how he was able to exhibit kindness, tender-heartedness, and forgiveness, all of which are found in the Book of Ephesians in the Holy Bible, Chapter 4, Verse 32. Such came after he allowed the “inner heart specialist” Jesus Christ to operate in him. I also met a woman who had almost the same historical experiences and she also publicly related how she, too, had a renewed “inner heart”, which allowed her among other things, to forgive a murderer.

Life is too short and blessings too many to gain, so discourage the growth of malice, deceit, envy and slander within your “inner heart”. Get them  out and really live.

 Rev. Haynesley Griffith is a marriage and family life consultant. Email: [email protected]