DEAR CHRISTINE: Torn between two lovers
I AM an employed 30-year-old single mother of two. I love my children dearly and would do anything (or should I say almost anything) to make their lives easy.
Their father walked out of our lives three years ago and started a second family. Soon after, I began dating this guy who said he wanted to marry me. However, he is yet to buy me an engagement ring or set a wedding date.
Here’s the real issue. Four months ago, I met a wonderful man who works for my company’s head office in Florida. He has declared his love for me and is willing to accept my children as his own. He is 11 years my senior, has no children, is financially secure and wants to marry me. He says he will take us abroad with him and has even invited me to meet his parents.
I have feelings for both these men but I want to make the right choice. How can I do so without hurting one of them?
You cannot! However, I am not in the position to tell you whether you should marry A or B. You have to follow your heart.
You also have the option of marrying the one who is more progressive in making you his wife and accepting your children as his own. Whatever decision you make, love must be at the heart of the matter.
Do not marry because of the opportunities which are being “dangled” (albeit innocently) before you, but because you truly love and want to spend the rest of your life with that individual. Love matters.